Look at South Africa - "Celebrate the Beloved Country"

Written by Craig Lock

# Introduction: Just sharing a few thoughts and remembrances after a very recent visit to my former homeland, this incredible, vibrant and diverse country atrepparttar tip ofrepparttar 144234 vast ("dark") continent of Africa, which may be of interest. This piece that I wrote is based upon an inspiring address by former Archbishop, Desmond Tutu. LOOK AT SOUTH AFRICA - CELEBRATE THE BELOVED COUNTRY (UPDATED) Authors Note: It is ten years sincerepparttar 144235 first democratic elections, so we can celebrate a decade ofrepparttar 144236 birth of a new country, where in spite of an endemic crime rate most people accept each other and work together as common citizens ofrepparttar 144237 "beloved country". Well, I'm always looking at some positive aspects and this is my reason for sharing this piece about my former (yet always in my heart) country! Inrepparttar 144238 light of current world events and global uncertainty, I say: "Look at South Africa"... Thousands of people died overrepparttar 144239 years of South Africa's turbulent, history (and underrepparttar 144240 "nightmare" called apartheid - forgotten already ???)...which has ended relatively peacefully. Out of a violent and bloody past, South Africa's extraordinary relatively peaceful transition to democracy was a minor miracle... and I believe, South Africans have accomplished something unprecented, unparalleled inrepparttar 144241 last eight years. Perhaps there is a message in South Africa's violent and tortuous path to democracy somewhere torepparttar 144242 "trouble spots ofrepparttar 144243 world"... perhaps there was a reason forrepparttar 144244 misery and tragedy of apartheid (as well as many centuries of colonialism aroundrepparttar 144245 globe), after all... A possible role-model? In spite ofrepparttar 144246 corruption, crime and "cheapness of life there, South Africa may berepparttar 144247 "trail-blazer",repparttar 144248 beacon of magnanimity, hope and reconciliation torepparttar 144249 world. With strong leadership, a spirit of goodwill, tolerance, acceptance ...and most importantly, attempts to understand other peoples and cultures, who are different to us (yet we humans have far more in common than our differences)...and especially withrepparttar 144250 SPIRIT of peace, your nightmare too will end. An end torepparttar 144251 evil of terrorism, man's inhumanity to man andrepparttar 144252 "impossibility" of world peace CAN one day be achieved. Letrepparttar 144253 world celebraterepparttar 144254 quite magnificent achievement South Africans of ALL races and creeds, "The Rainbow People of God" have accomplished inrepparttar 144255 past decade. With your "torch of light" you may yet illuminaterepparttar 144256 path to a world one day at peace with itself. CELEBRATE THE "BELOVED COUNTRY" - a land of such contrasts, a "happy, sad" land of great wealth and great poverty, yetrepparttar 144257 beauty and richness ofrepparttar 144258 land ...and most importantly its most valuable resource,repparttar 144259 spirit of its 45 million diverse peoples always seems to shine through in conquering adversity. "South Africa's ability to overcome deep divisions, to negotiate a common future and to commit itself to reconciliation and reconstruction offers new hope - not only to South Africa, but acrossrepparttar 144260 globe.

"God does work in amazing and miraculous ways...and every person and country has a unique purpose in "God's Divine Plan". Craig Lock * "How apartheid was finally buried, without requiem; but in joyous celebration, will remain forever inrepparttar 144261 hearts and minds of a nation reborn. When tears came, and there was dampness inrepparttar 144262 eyes of evenrepparttar 144263 most stern, it was for puttingrepparttar 144264 past inrepparttar 144265 past and hoping for hope inrepparttar 144266 future." "South Africa is blessed in resources beyond many. It dare not live just for itself. It must work and labour to bless Africa andrepparttar 144267 world...but especially Africa. If only for Africa's sake we dare not fail; because as South Africa goes, so willrepparttar 144268 rest of Africa." * Editor's note (http://www.bridgeniche.com): This prayer of Craig Lock was published in THE BRIDGE EZINE,...so thought we'd share. Prayer for South Africa 1994 (and these days especially for Southern Africa...and specifically - Zimbabwe)

by Craig Lock

We join in prayer to celebrate this new nation and surrender its destiny to you. We give thanks in our hearts torepparttar 144269 founding of this vibrant nation of diverse peoples, a beautiful yet tragic land built uponrepparttar 144270 rivers of blood, that flowed from our forefathers; yet still flow today...a 'happy sad' land of such contrasts. We give thanks for and blessrepparttar 144271 souls of those, who came before us and prepared this nation, to nurture and to save it; because so many gave their lives for it, some selflessly and many needlessly.

We ask that God's Holy Spirit now fillrepparttar 144272 hearts of all this great nation's citizens with thoughts of goodwill, righteousness, justice, acceptance and respect for others. In this may we be cleansed of all destructive thoughts. May judgement of others, bigotry, racism and intolerance be washed clean from our hearts, likerepparttar 144273 blood of our forefathers. God, instill in us especially a generous spirit of forgiveness and hope forrepparttar 144274 future. May we play our parts, all of us, inrepparttar 144275 healing andrepparttar 144276 furtherance of our diverse country; so that South Africa will one day fulfill its immense potential, a promise yet to be fulfilled. To dorepparttar 144277 very best within our abilities in developing "the Beloved Country" socially, politically, economically and spiritually...in a spirit of acceptane, co-operation, reconciliation and peace - each and every one of us.

Let each one of us build bridges rather than barriers, openness rather than walls. Let us look at distant horizons together in a spirit of acceptance, helpfulness, co-operation and peace. Let our leaders look atrepparttar 144278 future with a vision - to see things not as they are, but what they could one day become. * Dear Almighty God, you are all-powerful and omnipresent. You hold each one of us inrepparttar 144279 palms of your mighty hands. May our minds be filled withrepparttar 144280 thoughts of You; Your unconditional love and Your acceptance of all Your people, Your children. May this nation be forgiven its transgressions against its fellow citizens of all races and creeds and any and all others… so that we as a nation can move forward in harmony and prosperity.

May our lives be turned to instruments of resurrection and reconciliation, to reach out and bring all our peoples together, thatrepparttar 144281 sins of our fathers might be reversed through us, His children. Let us forgive, even if we can never forget. Mayrepparttar 144282 rich promises of this beautiful country of such contrasts be fulfilled...at long last.

The greatest resource in any nation is its citizens; so mayrepparttar 144283 beauty and greatness of this rich, diverse and vibrant land burst forth inrepparttar 144284 hearts of all it's people. Out ofrepparttar 144285 mistakes and tragedy ofrepparttar 144286 past, mayrepparttar 144287 dreams of our forefathers be realised in us; so that we might live with thoughts of goodwill, honesty, integrity, excellence and peace with our neighbours in a bright new dawn..

The Prodigy as Narcissistic Injury

Written by Sam Vaknin

The prodigy -repparttar precocious "genius" - feels entitled to special treatment. Yet, he rarely gets it. This frustrates him and renders him even more aggressive, driven, and overachieving than he is by nature.

As Horney pointed out,repparttar 143773 child-prodigy is dehumanized and instrumentalized. His parents love him not for what he really is - but for what they wish and imagine him to be:repparttar 143774 fulfilment of their dreams and frustrated wishes. The child becomesrepparttar 143775 vessel of his parents' discontented lives, a tool,repparttar 143776 magic brush with which they can transform their failures into successes, their humiliation into victory, their frustrations into happiness.

The child is taught to ignore reality and to occupyrepparttar 143777 parental fantastic space. Such an unfortunate child feels omnipotent and omniscient, perfect and brilliant, worthy of adoration and entitled to special treatment. The faculties that are honed by constantly brushing against bruising reality - empathy, compassion, a realistic assessment of one's abilities and limitations, realistic expectations of oneself and of others, personal boundaries, team work, social skills, perseverance and goal-orientation, not to mentionrepparttar 143778 ability to postpone gratification and to work hard to achieve it - are all lacking or missing altogether.

The child turned adult sees no reason to invest in his skills and education, convinced that his inherent genius should suffice. He feels entitled for merely being, rather than for actually doing (rather asrepparttar 143779 nobility in days gone by felt entitled not by virtue of its merit but asrepparttar 143780 inevitable, foreordained outcome of its birth right). In other words, he is not meritocratic - but aristocratic. In short: a narcissist is born.

Not all precocious prodigies end up under-accomplished and petulant. Many of them go on to attain great stature in their communities and great standing in their professions. But, even then,repparttar 143781 gap betweenrepparttar 143782 kind of treatment they believe that they deserve andrepparttar 143783 one they are getting is unbridgeable.

This is because narcissistic prodigies often misjudgerepparttar 143784 extent and importance of their accomplishments and, as a result, erroneously consider themselves to be indispensable and worthy of special rights, perks, and privileges. When they find out otherwise, they are devastated and furious.

Moreover, people are envious ofrepparttar 143785 prodigy. The genius serves as a constant reminder to others of their mediocrity, lack of creativity, and mundane existence. Naturally, they try to "bring him down to their level" and "cut him down to size". The gifted person's haughtiness and high-handedness only exacerbate his strained relationships.

In a way, merely by existing,repparttar 143786 prodigy inflicts constant and repeated narcissistic injuries onrepparttar 143787 less endowed andrepparttar 143788 pedestrian. This creates a vicious cycle. People try to hurt and harmrepparttar 143789 overweening and arrogant genius and he becomes defensive, aggressive, and aloof. This renders him even more obnoxious than before and others resent him more deeply and more thoroughly. Hurt and wounded, he retreats into fantasies of grandeur and revenge. Andrepparttar 143790 cycle re-commences.


Mistreating Celebrities - An Interview

Granted to Superinteressante Magazine in Brazil March 2005

Q. Fame and TV shows about celebrities usually have a huge audience. This is understandable: people like to see other successful people. But why people like to see celebrities being humiliated?

A. As far as their fans are concerned, celebrities fulfil two emotional functions: they provide a mythical narrative (a story thatrepparttar 143791 fan can follow and identify with) and they function as blank screens onto whichrepparttar 143792 fans project their dreams, hopes, fears, plans, values, and desires (wish fulfilment). The slightest deviation from these prescribed roles provokes enormous rage and makes us want to punish (humiliate)repparttar 143793 "deviant" celebrities.

But why?

Whenrepparttar 143794 human foibles, vulnerabilities, and frailties of a celebrity are revealed,repparttar 143795 fan feels humiliated, "cheated", hopeless, and "empty". To reassert his self-worth,repparttar 143796 fan must establish his or her moral superiority overrepparttar 143797 erring and "sinful" celebrity. The fan must "teachrepparttar 143798 celebrity a lesson" and showrepparttar 143799 celebrity "who's boss". It is a primitive defense mechanism - narcissistic grandiosity. It putsrepparttar 143800 fan on equal footing withrepparttar 143801 exposed and "naked" celebrity.

Q. This taste for watching a person being humiliated has something to do withrepparttar 143802 attraction to catastrophes and tragedies?

A. There is always a sadistic pleasure and a morbid fascination in vicarious suffering. Being sparedrepparttar 143803 pains and tribulations others go through makesrepparttar 143804 observer feel "chosen", secure, and virtuous. The higher celebrities rise,repparttar 143805 harder they fall. There is something gratifying in hubris defied and punished.

Q. Do you believerepparttar 143806 audience put themselves inrepparttar 143807 place ofrepparttar 143808 reporter (when he asks something embarrassing to a celebrity) and become in some way revenged?

A. The reporter "represents"repparttar 143809 "bloodthirsty" public. Belittling celebrities or watching their comeuppance isrepparttar 143810 modern equivalent ofrepparttar 143811 gladiator rink. Gossip used to fulfilrepparttar 143812 same function and nowrepparttar 143813 mass media broadcast liverepparttar 143814 slaughtering of fallen gods. There is no question of revenge here - just Schadenfreude,repparttar 143815 guilty joy of witnessing your superiors penalized and "cut down to size".

Q. In your country, who arerepparttar 143816 celebrities people love to hate?

A. Israelis like to watch politicians and wealthy businessmen reduced, demeaned, and slighted. In Macedonia, where I live, all famous people, regardless of their vocation, are subject to intense, proactive, and destructive envy. This love-hate relationship with their idols, this ambivalence, is attributed by psychodynamic theories of personal development torepparttar 143817 child's emotions towards his parents. Indeed, we transfer and displace many negative emotions we harbor onto celebrities.

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