Look at South Africa - "Celebrate the Beloved Country"

Written by Craig Lock

Continued from page 1

May this country become a light atrepparttar top ofrepparttar 144234 hill unto allrepparttar 144235 nations of this world (but especially inrepparttar 144236 "dark" neglected continent of Africa): so that our country will be a beacon of goodness, tolerance of differences, freedom, peace and especially hope. (Becauserepparttar 144237 human condition has far more in common, than our cultural, ethnic and racial differences) May violence and darkness be cast out of our midst. May hatred no longer find fertile ground in which to grow here. May all of us feel God's,repparttar 144238 Ultimate Source of Life's immeasurable mercy, infinite Grace and Love upon each one of us.

Dear God, please, please ignite in our hearts, inrepparttar 144239 depths of our soulsrepparttar 144240 spark of Your light,repparttar 144241 spirit of truth. May our newborn nation be given a new light: one of justice and rightiousness that will be seared into our hearts,repparttar 144242 sacred fire of freedom, democracy,repparttar 144243 spirit of reconciliation and Your forgiveness for past transgressions: So thatrepparttar 144244 flame of 'ubuntu',repparttar 144245 generosity of spirit burns brightly inrepparttar 144246 heart of all New South Africans. A new light of Love that will shine so brightly right across this vast land as a beacon of hope forrepparttar 144247 future - fromrepparttar 144248 Atlantic torepparttar 144249 Indian Ocean, fromrepparttar 144250 Limpopo inrepparttar 144251 north torepparttar 144252 Cape of Storms atrepparttar 144253 southern tip of Africa. May we be forgiven - each one of us. May our children be blessed. May we be renewed. May each one of us be filled withrepparttar 144254 spirit ofrepparttar 144255 Almighty,repparttar 144256 Divine. In our lives mayrepparttar 144257 "Rainbow Children ofrepparttar 144258 Beloved Country" manifestrepparttar 144259 glory of God, that lies within every one of us.

Dear God, please bless South Africa.


Craig Lock (1994) Madiba (President Mandela), I hope you like it. With best wishes andrepparttar 144260 utmost admiration for your immense generosity of spirit throughout your life. * Doesn'trepparttar 144261 world need a leader like Nelson Mandela today? "Comethrepparttar 144262 hour, comethrepparttar 144263 man." The problems ofrepparttar 144264 world today cannot be solved by thinking atrepparttar 144265 same level that created them. Jesus Christ challengedrepparttar 144266 conventional thinking ofrepparttar 144267 day over 2000 years ago. PPS: Why can'trepparttar 144268 world now try a radically different approach to South Africa's "largely forgotten" neighbour, Zimbabwe in "darkest Africa". Even though it's not a strategic country, like Iraq!

Like South Africa inrepparttar 144269 past decade, letrepparttar 144270 world NOW show howrepparttar 144271 immense problems under a brutal and repressive government can also be solved PEACEFULLY through "constructive engagement and negotiation in a show of peaceful unity with FIRM LEADERSHIP". Time to show some effective leadership and to act decisively on Zimbabwe now, President Thabo Mbeki (you can immediately makerepparttar 144272 lives of thousands of Zimbabweans far better by firmly condemningrepparttar 144273 brutal repression of its citizens by Robert Mugabe! Let's not wait for ten years idly passing by (as in Iraq!). It is now time to "raiserepparttar 144274 bar" - what and what we will not accept inrepparttar 144275 global community, as 'acceptable behaviour' whatrepparttar 144276 world expects now as acceptable (and decent) standards of behaviour inrepparttar 144277 community of nations. A radically different approach is needed withrepparttar 144278 problem of Zimbabwe to that imposed on Iraq; yet withrepparttar 144279 same "force and passion" asrepparttar 144280 US military have shown. Now it's time forrepparttar 144281 world to stand up and be counted. To showrepparttar 144282 peaceful, yet FIRM way to resolving seemingly insurmountable problems and bring a more "democratic" form of government to that beleagured country. To at last show some effective leadership and showerrepparttar 144283 people of that beautiful, yet blighted land under Southern skies with humanitarian aid inrepparttar 144284 form of desperately needed food, health supplies and education. That isrepparttar 144285 "pressure", which will raiserepparttar 144286 standards of whatrepparttar 144287 citizens of Zimbabwe will and will not tolerate from their brutal dictator. Pressure from within AND without, as with Apartheid South Africa. A more educated, well-fed and healthy population will bring about change naturally and according torepparttar 144288 will ofrepparttar 144289 people.... so that eventually "the people will govern". It is not up to us to forcibly impose our values (Western and "superior") on other cultures. (Sanctions incidentally isolate people, build borders and entrench attitudes. Even when people radically disagree with other countries internal regimes, things can change far more easily through dialogue (even with one's enemies) and withoutrepparttar 144290 devastating long-term consequences of violence in countries, when co-operation, friendship and help is offered in a spirit of tolerance, love and generosity. Those leaders, who ignorerepparttar 144291 lessons of world history are doomed to repeat them. Let's fightrepparttar 144292 "war for peace" with passion and with all of our energies. Inrepparttar 144293 "WAR FOR PEACE" everyone then benefits (a "win/win" situation). I believe, that isrepparttar 144294 only true way to lasting world peace in living with and acceptance of each other... And so helps make a better world. Craig Lock P.S: I am reminded of something Mahatma Gandhi's said not long before he was assassinated: "When I despair, I remember that all through historyrepparttar 144295 way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible; but inrepparttar 144296 end, they always fall. Think of it, ALWAYS." "Love suffers long and is kind. Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices inrepparttar 144297 truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. And now abide faith, hope, love; butrepparttar 144298 greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13 "Whenrepparttar 144299 world is filled with love, people are overflowing with hope." Letrepparttar 144300 world of nations immediately lift sanctions onrepparttar 144301 beleagured people of Iraq and sent as much humanitarian resolve to help rebuild that devasted country. "Let us take courage. The years are passing. The time for decision is now." Craig Lock (Eagle Productions) http://www.craiglockbooks.com "The greatness of a nation consists not so much inrepparttar 144302 number of it's people orrepparttar 144303 extent of it's territory as inrepparttar 144304 extent and justice of it's compassion."

- Inscription atrepparttar 144305 Horse Memorial in Port Elizabeth, for horses killed inrepparttar 144306 Anglo-Boer War (1899-1902 'The New Rainbow' is available at: http://www.craiglock.com/books.html or to order contact Craig at clock@paradise.net.nz

Craig's other novels on South Africa that he "felt inspired to write" are available at: http://www.bridgeniche.com/southern-african-experience/index.html THIS PIECE MAY BE FREELY PUBLISHED

Craig is an "infopreneur", who loves to encourage people to follow their wildest dreams.

The Prodigy as Narcissistic Injury

Written by Sam Vaknin

Continued from page 1

Q. I would never dare asking some questionsrepparttar reporters from Panico askrepparttar 143773 celebrities. What arerepparttar 143774 characteristics of people like these reporters?

A. Sadistic, ambitious, narcissistic, lacking empathy, self-righteous, pathologically and destructively envious, with a fluctuating sense of self-worth (possibly an inferiority complex).

6. Do you believerepparttar 143775 actors and reporters want themselves to be as famous asrepparttar 143776 celebrities they tease? Because I think this is almost happening...

A. The line is very thin. Newsmakers and newsmen and women are celebrities merely because they are public figures and regardless of their true accomplishments. A celebrity is famous for being famous. Of course, such journalists will likely to fall prey to up and coming colleagues in an endless and self-perpetuating food chain...

7. I think thatrepparttar 143777 fan-celebrity relationship gratifies both sides. What arerepparttar 143778 advantagesrepparttar 143779 fans get and what arerepparttar 143780 advantagesrepparttar 143781 celebrities get?

A. There is an implicit contract between a celebrity and his fans. The celebrity is obliged to "actrepparttar 143782 part", to fulfilrepparttar 143783 expectations of his admirers, not to deviate fromrepparttar 143784 roles that they impose and he or she accepts. In returnrepparttar 143785 fans showerrepparttar 143786 celebrity with adulation. They idolize him or her and make him or her feel omnipotent, immortal, "larger than life", omniscient, superior, and sui generis (unique).

What arerepparttar 143787 fans getting for their trouble?

Above all,repparttar 143788 ability to vicariously sharerepparttar 143789 celebrity's fabulous (and, usually, partly confabulated) existence. The celebrity becomes their "representative" in fantasyland, their extension and proxy,repparttar 143790 reification and embodiment of their deepest desires and most secret and guilty dreams. Many celebrities are also role models or father/mother figures. Celebrities are proof that there is more to life than drab and routine. That beautiful - nay, perfect - people do exist and that they do lead charmed lives. There's hope yet - this isrepparttar 143791 celebrity's message to his fans.

The celebrity's inevitable downfall and corruption isrepparttar 143792 modern-day equivalent ofrepparttar 143793 medieval morality play. This trajectory - from rags to riches and fame and back to rags or worse - proves that order and justice do prevail, that hubris invariably gets punished, and thatrepparttar 143794 celebrity is no better, neither is he superior, to his fans.

8. Why are celebrities narcissists? How is this disorder born?

No one knows if pathological narcissism isrepparttar 143795 outcome of inherited traits,repparttar 143796 sad result of abusive and traumatizing upbringing, orrepparttar 143797 confluence of both. Often, inrepparttar 143798 same family, withrepparttar 143799 same set of parents and an identical emotional environment - some siblings grow to be malignant narcissists, while others are perfectly "normal". Surely, this indicates a genetic predisposition of some people to develop narcissism.

It would seem reasonable to assume - though, at this stage, there is not a shred of proof - thatrepparttar 143800 narcissist is born with a propensity to develop narcissistic defenses. These are triggered by abuse or trauma duringrepparttar 143801 formative years in infancy or during early adolescence. By "abuse" I am referring to a spectrum of behaviors which objectifyrepparttar 143802 child and treat it as an extension ofrepparttar 143803 caregiver (parent) or as a mere instrument of gratification. Dotting and smothering are as abusive as beating and starving. And abuse can be dished out by peers as well as by parents, or by adult role models.

Not all celebrities are narcissists. Still, some of them surely are.

We all search for positive cues from people around us. These cues reinforce in us certain behaviour patterns. There is nothing special inrepparttar 143804 fact thatrepparttar 143805 narcissist-celebrity doesrepparttar 143806 same. However there are two major differences betweenrepparttar 143807 narcissistic andrepparttar 143808 normal personality.

The first is quantitative. The normal person is likely to welcome a moderate amount of attention verbal and non-verbal inrepparttar 143809 form of affirmation, approval, or admiration. Too much attention, though, is perceived as onerous and is avoided. Destructive and negative criticism is avoided altogether.

The narcissist, in contrast, isrepparttar 143810 mental equivalent of an alcoholic. He is insatiable. He directs his whole behaviour, in fact his life, to obtain these pleasurable titbits of attention. He embeds them in a coherent, completely biased, picture of himself. He uses them to regulates his labile (fluctuating) sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

To elicit constant interest,repparttar 143811 narcissist projects on to others a confabulated, fictitious version of himself, known asrepparttar 143812 False Self. The False Self is everythingrepparttar 143813 narcissist is not: omniscient, omnipotent, charming, intelligent, rich, or well-connected.

The narcissist then proceeds to harvest reactions to this projected image from family members, friends, co-workers, neighbours, business partners and from colleagues. If these repparttar 143814 adulation, admiration, attention, fear, respect, applause, affirmation are not forthcoming,repparttar 143815 narcissist demands them, or extorts them. Money, compliments, a favourable critique, an appearance inrepparttar 143816 media, a sexual conquest are all converted intorepparttar 143817 same currency inrepparttar 143818 narcissist's mind, into "narcissistic supply".

So,repparttar 143819 narcissist is not really interested in publicity per se or in being famous. Truly he is concerned withrepparttar 143820 REACTIONS to his fame: how people watch him, notice him, talk about him, debate his actions. It "proves" to him that he exists.

The narcissist goes around "hunting and collecting"repparttar 143821 wayrepparttar 143822 expressions on people's faces change when they notice him. He places himself atrepparttar 143823 centre of attention, or even as a figure of controversy. He constantly and recurrently pesters those nearest and dearest to him in a bid to reassure himself that he is not losing his fame, his magic touch,repparttar 143824 attention of his social milieu.

Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Central Europe Review, PopMatters, and eBookWeb , and Bellaonline, and as a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent. He is the the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

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