I remember when I was younger and in school, fear stopped me from asking out a girl I wanted to date.

I didn't understand it then but I certainly do today.

Do you ever have any thoughts of fear that cause you to not to move ahead with any of your dreams or goals?

Every human on earth at one time or another feels this "fear" and reverts back into their "safety" or comfort zone. The system was created to protect us in times of real danger but we must learn when danger is real or caused by our imagination of what may happen…again.

What ability causes one person to face and overcome possible rejection at work, in school or in a relationship, vs. someone who is paralyzed by mere thought?

A man who goes after business like a tiger may be uncomfortable with women and therefore not be able to approach a woman for fear of rejection.

A woman who is miserable in a relationship may be petrified at thought of saying anything to her spouse in fear of potential discussion or backlash.

A child may not seek out other children to play with at school in fear of rejection.

The list can go on and on, from fear of leaving your job, to fear of hurting yourself if you try something new.

So, what is really going on, and how can we stop this once and for all?

As we move into heart chakra we find that we can take a breather from our own self-importance. We start to recognize that there are things happening around us of which we are no part. If person at grocery store is in a bad mood we do not spend rest of day in a huff or wondering what we did to them. We can simply acknowledge that they are having a bad day and get on with rest of our day.

So what does all that have to do with forgiveness?

Everything! You see it is very rare that someone coldly and calculatingly sets out to hurt us. Usually their actions come from thoughtlessness and not a deliberate act to harm you. We all have our faults and failings as well as our good points. It is all part of being human and playing this game we call life.

If someone has hurt us or let us down it is probably because of their own insecurities and lack of self worth. They are not trying to hurt you but make themselves feel better about themselves. For example, if a spouse has an affair it is usually because they are desperately searching for something to bolster their flagging egos. It is not to hurt their spouse. They are trying to find something they fear is missing in their life. (This is not to say that I am condoning affairs in anyway or that you should stay or leave a partner who has cheated on you. That is entirely up to you.)

When we come from heart chakra we can take a step back and not take things so personally. We can take a look at what has happened and why. Then we can decide what we wish to do about a situation without getting all caught up in emotion of it.