Most fears are illusions we create in our own head, based on past conditioning and not based on what is possible. As children we are natural born risk takers and for most part we are fearless. The meaning we give an experience when we do not achieve result we want, determines how we "see" and "feel" when a similar opportunity presents itself.

If we experience rejection more times than we care to, we tend to mentally label experience a negative one. Over time, this becomes our belief, and our beliefs, as you already know, becomes our reality.

What would happen if we changed meaning of an experience we didn't like?

What if we learned to label experience a learning one or an interesting one? Do you think your tolerance level would increase for trying again?

I have learned that people who really succeed in various areas of life often frame their experiences differently than those who quickly label experience as a negative one.

When we feel fear, we are playing a mental track that is not conducive to growth. All growth comes from stretching oneself past comfort zone that limits us. Risk is a necessary part of reward. You cannot have one without other.

Let me suggest that you start to label your experiences in a way that serves you rather than limits you.

We have very few limits except ones that we set on ourselves. And those are mostly out of fear from past. Do not let your past control your present thinking. Step out and grow. Step out of your comfort zone and be free again!

And remember...

Create a Great Day!

When we forgive someone it lifts a burden from us, we will feel lighter and more joyful. If person deliberately hurt us and we hang onto grudge they win again and again. Do you really want that? This is your life we are talking about. Don't you owe it to yourself to make it as happy and joyful as you can? Why destroy your life by a thoughtless act of another person. You are better than that. I know you are. And honestly best revenge is being happy.

Some people have mistaken belief that they have to hang onto pain so they will not let themselves be hurt again. This only makes for a life full of misery. Sure, they might not let anyone hurt them again but they will also be cutting themselves off from a lot of wonderful experiences. A better attitude to take is to learn from their experience and forgive. Then trust themselves that from a place of openness and wisdom that they will know what to do if they are ever faced with a similar experience.

If you want to forgive someone simply have intention of letting go of your hurt and forgiving them. Then sit quietly and flood green into your heart chakra. This may take minutes, hours, days or weeks. You might get rid of it and it may come back again. If so, start again. The feelings of hurt will pass and boy will you feel great. Just do it as often as you need to.

Spend five minutes twice a day flooding green in your heart chakra until you can think of person without pain. This does not mean that you have to have an abusive person in your life. You can forgive someone but not want any contact with them because you know that you are better off without them. This is valid and does not mean that you are holding a grudge.

You can forgive those that have passed away. However, if it is a long-term grudge be prepared for a bit of an emotional time while you do so.

You may feel guilty for not having forgiven them while they were still alive, or grief at their passing that you have not allowed yourself to feel before. This is an important part of process and just be willing to allow yourself to sit with pain. Keep working with heart chakra and these feelings will subside. The final step in process is to forgive yourself for not forgiving them when they were alive.