Your World Your Way - Trusting Yourself In Business

Written by Ann Kelly


“It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand inrepparttar centre ofrepparttar 123264 fire with me and not shrink back.” Oriah Mountain Dreamer You cannot have peace of mind or have a healthy business if you don’t trust yourself. Trusting yourself is having a true sense of who you are, clarity about what you want andrepparttar 123265 presence of mind to honour yourself. At timesrepparttar 123266 pressure from being in business and just living itself, can cause you to make decisions you can’t really stand over. Not trusting yourself enough can leave you out on a limb because you’ve compromised yourself. Say you’re negotiating a big contract– Don’t you need to be rock steady to makerepparttar 123267 best deal for you? Not trusting yourself is not unusual; self-trust is something we build up over our lifetime, through our experiences and by consciously working towards it. Why is self-trust so vital? When we don’t trust ourselves enough, we lack a core reference point from which to operate. We may lose our sense of ourselves and ebb and flow according to other’s agendas. A small example of this is, once I agreed to accept payment from a client by cheque versus by standing order. I got burned by not being paid on time, month after month. When all is said and done I exposed myself unnecessarily. Ultimately no one was served. We need self-trust most when we are in situations where we are unsure. We may be inrepparttar 123268 company of people who are more influential than we are, or we may be under pressure because we need something. For some reason or other, we’re off-centre. If we only knew it, these arerepparttar 123269 times when it’s really critical for our business and our peace of mind that we trust ourselves. In my opinion, if you’re not aware of what you’re doing, or not able to stop yourself even when you know you should, you cannot trust yourself. You are not in control. Whatever is on your mind is in control, not you. Trusting yourself gives you a rock-solid foundation, which guarantees that decisions you make are beneficial. How Do I Gain More Self Trust? In any situation or circumstance. 1) Stop for a moment 2) Stand inrepparttar 123270 centre ofrepparttar 123271 situation and check whether you are comfortable or not. 3) Stay present torepparttar 123272 situation yet detached enough to tune into your gut instincts and also seerepparttar 123273 bigger picture. 4) Remain detached and clear about what you want. 5) Choose from that place. For instance takerepparttar 123274 client who paid by cheque. On reflection, how could I have avoided putting myself in that situation? If I were trusting myself, I would have 1) Stopped 2) Realised I was uncomfortable 3) Reflected onrepparttar 123275 potential problems that might arise, by listening torepparttar 123276 messages my gut was sending me 4) Remembered what I really wanted 5) Re-negotiated. Five Ways To Keep Yourself In Check: These are five tactics you can use to make sure you can trust yourself, even whenrepparttar 123277 tendency is not to. 1) Observe yourself – this means in your mind’s eye, take yourself out ofrepparttar 123278 situation and look at how you are in it.

It's Time to Get Out of The Box!

Written by Connie Butler


“It is never too late to be what you might have been. “(George Eliot)

I have found that truly successful people surround themselves withrepparttar support that makes them excel. Over years of working with clients I have found that people struggle when they put their businesses and their lives in a self-imposed limiting box and keep doingrepparttar 123263 same things over and over again.

So what I do it is help people dismantle that box –repparttar 123264 attitudes, ideas, beliefs, choices and strategies that keep them limited – and I teach them how to connect torepparttar 123265 full range of their talents, abilities and resources so that they can bring that immensity and excitement back into their daily planning and choices.

I define a limiting box as any idea of yourself orrepparttar 123266 world, any attitude, any language you use, any belief or any experience that diminishes you in anyway or robs you of your personal power and prevents you from moving forward inrepparttar 123267 world.

Living in these boxes keeps us within what we already know – we repeatrepparttar 123268 same habitual actions hoping for a better result and end up disillusioned and feeling stuck. In order to liverepparttar 123269 best life possible for yourself you have to masterrepparttar 123270 skill of moving intorepparttar 123271 unknown. The unknown is really anything outside ofrepparttar 123272 box that we have created from past experiences, beliefs and ideas. It is where fresh opportunity, excitement and more satisfaction reside.

Over and over again in working with new clients we uncoverrepparttar 123273 ways in which they are creating difficulty for themselves by not even seeingrepparttar 123274 opportunities that are right in front of them – just slightly outside of their box. Often, they feel frustrated in their efforts and even give up on doing what they love most. In doing this they turn away from what could bring their greatest reward.

Here are some symptoms of living “inrepparttar 123275 box”: Frustration Anger Lack of energy or motivation Feeling stuck Resentment Lack of creativity Disorganization Cynicism Not doing what you love Boredom A sense of failure Despair

There are many boxes that people create for themselves. Here are a few of them:

1.The box of language –repparttar 123276 I’m not or you’re not good enough box. Language is a powerful tool. How we use it both describes and begins to structure our experience for us. Every time you use language that diminishes you or others – “That was stupid of me”, “I’m never going to make this work”, “life it just too hard”…..etc, etc. – we strengthenrepparttar 123277 walls ofrepparttar 123278 box we are in.

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