Your World Your Way - Trusting Yourself In BusinessWritten by Ann Kelly
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2) Never make a decision you’re not ready to make. When you’re not clear, walk away, and come back to it after you’ve thought about it. 3) Know your danger zones – what throws you off centre. 4) Ask yourself, does this fit with me? Is it fitting nicely into place or is it a huge effort. When you feel easy about something and it flows easily it’s right for you. 5) Take white space You need to build self-awareness, which is all about becoming an observer of yourself and watching how you respond in different situations and environments. Once you are conscious of your own danger zones, you can set up ways to change what you’re doing, to get result you want. How Do I Identify My Danger Zones? Take time to reflect on experiences you’ve had where you didn’t trust yourself enough and ended up with problems. Check what was on your mind at time. There are always warning signs, (gut responses) or intuitive messages you got. You probably ignored them at time. Usually we only truly acknowledge them with hindsight. Another way is to observe yourself in current situations and see how you operate. You’ll soon recognise your pitfalls. Then you can change your responses and build more self-trust. It looks like you need to have presence of mind to be able to trust yourself. Yes and this is where white space comes in. We need to stop and take time out just to be with ourselves. What is White Space? It’s: - A designated chunk of time, for you alone. No ‘shoulding’ on yourself! You do whatever you want. - At least two hours, twice a week, with nothing scheduled or planned for it. - Blocked out in your diary for coming year. - Built up over time to two hours/day or a half day/week or two days/week. - Untouchable You need to commit to it and also to shift your perception. You are not being self-indulgent. You are being responsible and empowering yourself to have choice and freedom. How do I use White Space? The decision on how you use it should come in first moment you are in it. If you are unsure, just sit and be present and see what comes up. You will learn to be more spontaneous. It’s a bit like clearing clutter. Until you clear it, it’s hard to see what you have currently and what you can eventually have. Remember: To trust yourself, you’ve got to know yourself well. Knowing yourself means you are aware, you understand, you are conscious of what’s going on around you and how you are responding to it. It means you know what you want in any given situation. You learn to read signals and adjust your responses as necessary. When you slow down and take time and space to build awareness, you will notice that you are: - Observing yourself - Eventually able to watch your mind in action - Learning that when nothing is working, to do nothing - Trusting yourself more and more - Taking pressure off and more sure of yourself - More surefooted and strategic.
Ann Kelly is a Personal and Business coach, with an established global reach. Her speciality is helping those who’ve sold their souls to their business or organisation and want a refund. Ann's unique style has had a significant positive, impact upon many lives and businesses. Check out success stories and visit her website, at http://www.yourworldyourway.com To arrange a complimentary 30 minute session please call Ann at +353-21-4354725 or email ann@yourworldyourway.com
| | It's Time to Get Out of The Box!Written by Connie Butler
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2. The box of familiar actions – I’m safe if I don’t try anything-new box. Our actions can either open new doorways for us or keep us in same groove we are familiar with. Someone described his experience of this lately. He said that it is like going down a dead-end street and then having to turn around and come back again over and over again– wasting a whole lot of energy and time in process. After doing this a number of times people often give up. Seeing and acting outside of box can allow you a different perspective from which to connect dots. 3. The box of blame – I have no power box. Many people insist on blaming their circumstances, financial markets, their spouse, dog or anyone else for situation they are in. Until you can recognize and identify ways you are perpetuating this box and take responsibility it is very difficult to make real progress. Granted externals have an impact but recognizing how you create a box out of circumstances allows you power and energy to begin moving out of it. 4. The box of negative expectation – I know that same thing is going to happen box. When faced with something you don’t know notice if you expect either something negative to happen or expect that what you have experienced before will repeat itself. Many people use this as a way to move away from their fear of change and keep status quo in place. They would rather stay with known pain than risk something new. The unknown I am talking about has all possibility in it – if we project our negative or limiting expectations on it there is no room for anything new. Imagine what would happen if this box didn’t hold you! What are your favorite boxes and what might happen in your personal or professional life if you were guided out of those boxes? Often it is hard for us to do it alone. Sometimes we can’t even identify where we are stuck without a fresh set of very interested eyes. Coaching can offer you that new vantage point, that broader view and support and tools needed to move outside your BOX.
Connie Butler is a personal and professional coach working with individuals and groups to clarify their greatest vision and cultivate its successful realization. She can be reached at http://www.conniebutler.biz or phone 305-534-1119 or connie@conniebutler.biz. Ms. Butler appears on Entertainment News and Views On-The-Air on Waxy Radio 790AM between 5-7pm every second Friday.
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