Self Help: Your Success Formula

Your Success Formula

Written by Maret McCoy, Executive Coach

Have you ever made great progress with your goals but then found yourself losing focus and getting side-tracked? Do you ever achieve significant gains but then get distracted and “fall off repparttar

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way of reaching our most important goals. My clients often ask me how to get back in repparttar 130877

groove when they’ve veered off course. They often say things such as: “I was doing so well. How can I get back on track and recoup all repparttar 130878

advancements I’ve made?” A technique I recommend is to write a “success memo.”

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For example, I have a client who is required to travel internationally for business every few months. Upon return from these trips, she would often feel “off kilter” and it would take her several weeks to regain her energy and momentum.

I asked her what made her feel off balance. She responded that upon return, she would feel sluggish, edgy and ungrounded. I then asked her to identify what it was about international travel that caused her to feel this way.

She replied: - Not getting enough sleep because repparttar 130883 colleague she travels with (her superior) likes to work late at night - Feeling stiff and cramped from long hours on repparttar 130884 plane, lugging heavy bags, not stretching, etc. - Lack of personal downtime because she was always on repparttar 130885 go during her trips.

What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Title: What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 646 Category: Relationships, Intimacy

WHAT REALLY CREATES EMOTIONAL INTIMACY By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with someone - a time when you felt emotionally intimate with this person. Think about a time when you felt light and playful with someone, or a time when laughter flowed easily, or a time when you felt you could tell your deepest secret and it would be accepted.

We all yearn for that deep connection with someone, yet few people seem to be able to maintain emotional intimacy for very long. We often have it at repparttar 130874 very beginning of relationships, before repparttar 130875 conflicts start. How can we maintain that wonderful intimacy in a long-term relationship?

The deep and wonderful feeling of intimacy flourishes in an atmosphere of safety. We open up when we feel safe. We take risks when we feel safe. The challenge is - how do we create this safety?

Most of repparttar 130876 time people feel safe when they are with someone who is very accepting, caring, and compassionate. The problem is that no one is completely reliable when it comes to these qualities. Most people have bad days when they may be irritable or grumpy. What happens to repparttar 130877 safety when repparttar 130878 other person’s acceptance and caring goes away?

Our sense of safety needs to come from within as well as without. We need to become repparttar 130879 person, especiallly with ourselves, who is consistently accepting, caring and compassionate. We need to become strong enough within to not take another’s bad day personally. We need to become centered enough within to stand up for ourselves when another gets angry or blaming. We need to become powerful enough within to stay open-hearted in repparttar 130880 face of fear and conflict.

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