“You and I do not see things as they are. We see things as WE are” -Herb Cohen

It all started with a perfectly innocent question from my husband. “Honey, can we compare our calendars, I have some things I want to schedule and I’d like your input?” Happily I agreed and pulled my chair up to engage in conversation.

After looking at fullness of my husbands schedule and realizing he still had MORE he wanted to fit in, I responded, “Hey, what about some quality weekend time for us?” With an exasperated look he retorted, “what do you mean?” I could feel our defense postures setting in as predictable as night and day. We launched into an ever-escalating exchange.

The phone rang interrupting our conversation. I was called away to deal with a pressing matter. Afterwards I began to think about interaction with my husband and wondered why I was so tweaked. Then it hit me.

All he did was simply ask me to look at calendar with him! I was one who made his request mean he preferred everything else to spending time with me. With out even being aware of it I started telling myself all kinds of stories about what I thought he meant which made me upset. Unsurprisingly, I soon realized source of those thoughts: fear and lack.

Later, when we resumed conversation I was able to share these new thoughts. It was like hitting refresh button on my computer. It felt great to acknowledge my own “stuff” and hear his original intent for conversation.

We had so many wonderful comments come in this week about our last newsletter. If you would like to re-read that issue, it's online here:

http://choosetoprosper.com/current_issue.html

One of main questions that folks asked, "How do we find what our calling in life is?"

First let me say, I'm not going to set myself up here as an expert in this area, what I am going to share with you is few insights I've learned over years.

Understand, you are never "just" a plumber, or a salesperson, or "just" a farmer, or "just" a school teacher.

You are someone special.

You are someone created by a higher power in universe.

You are someone loved and cherished by that higher power in your life.

But, only true fulfillment in life will be when you are doing what that higher power has called you to be.

Your mission, is to find what that calling is on your life then follow it.

Some are called to be housewives, some coal miners, some train engineers, some bank presidents, some are called to be butchers, bakers, or Indian chiefs.

What is important to know is you will never find that true satisfaction doing "just" what you want to do. There's something inside of all of us that says I've gotta do what that calling is on my life.

What are gifts and talents and abilities that have been given you in life?

That will help you identify what your specific calling is.

If you hate mathematics and can't understand it, then being an accountant is most likely not your call. If what you are doing is drudgery or un-fullfilling, if you just seem to hate getting up in morning and facing what you do everyday, then most likely you are not following your calling in life.

Look into yourself and ask, "What are you good at, what do you really enjoy doing, what are you fruitful at, what part of your life do you find most satisfaction?

What is your passion in life?

If you're not following gifts that have been given you, then you're never going to achieve your fullest potential here on Earth.