Here are some common examples of how we create needless pain for ourselves.

I was talking with a client who was telling me about her boyfriend not wanting to drive with her to pick up a friend at airport. She made it mean that he didn’t want friend to come at all.

Another client was upset because her friend cancelled a lunch date without apparent reason. She made it mean friend didn’t like her.

My friend flew into a panic attack because his boss called him into office in middle of workday. He was convinced he was about to be fired.

What do you make things mean in your life? Do you automatically jump to “conclusion” that proves worst about yourself? Here are some tips for staying in present moment when confronted with a potentially “button pushing” situation.

1. When faced with an emotional reaction get in habit of asking yourself, “What am I making this mean”? Stop freight train of your thoughts and look for another option.

2. Connect with reality. Offer yourself gift of truth. Is it true that “X “ will happen? Can I really know what I’m perceiving and concluding is only possibility?

3. Consider shifting from a limited view of yourself. Focus on what’s positive, larger and perhaps more true about you. Let go of negative self-talk.

Once you eliminate endless mind loops of fear and self-doubt that come from second-guessing, from making meaning without facts you free up your energy. Can you imagine how this could improve your relationships? How much more peaceful your world could be?

What would you rather be doing with your time? Personally, I’d rather have that quality weekend time with my husband.

It’s your life…imagine possibilities!

**************************************** Helaine Iris is a Certified Life Coach She works with individuals, entrepreneurs, professionals, and leaders who want more out of life. People, who want to lead successful, balanced lives filled with love, passion and purpose. Are you ready to take a step that could change your life? For a complimentary session visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com

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