Our thoughts become our words become our actions become our reality. It’s that simple. And that complex.

Saying something negative about yourself does two things.

1. You come to believe it and thus, live it

And

2. It confuses heck out of Universe - especially if you have been expressing your desire for opposite.

Our success depends on our increasing awareness of how we speak about ourselves. Rather than expressing a negative thought that pops up, consider replacing it with a positive affirmation.

The first rule of thumb of breaking up is to select appropriate moment (do not procrastinate or you will look pathetic). The second is to devise manner of breakup around reason for breakup - ( you do not slash your wrists a la Diana as a way out when you find you were cheated upon).And last, not least rule , is to break even by breaking up. How? Say that what you have given that bloke is a love to talk about till day he dies; take it back: love letters, poems and precious gifts. Suppose he ran away with a younger woman; date a younger man IMMEDIATELY, without giving him a hint it is about revenge. He went back to his Ex? Go back to your Ex, any Ex, innocently. Breaking even is not exactly revenge; it is setting records straight and rescuing your self-esteem .No matter what you choose to do, it should never look like breaking even!

Every relationship warrants its own break up story. But here there are ways to break his heart while you mend yours:

· You suddenly despise him when he said you were woman who loved him best in 40 years.

· You immediately act healthy and in control as if he never mattered. He should not really.

· You ‘command' he gives you everything you gave him (letters, love notes, pics and precious gifts); and since you cannot take back love making, pretend it never really touched you. You cannot take back your love? You can un-love.

· You are super nice to his friends and refrain from talking about him saying : ‘he is not worth mention', or: ‘a fiasco he was; but I don't think I was true either', better still: ‘c'mon , a crush is a crush is a crush!'

· Never Ever fight over him with another woman - EVER! Just give him up to her. This is surest way she will dump him.

· Never ever let him see your tears over him. Never even cry in private!

· Treat yourself best way you can, from having a total make over to having fun.

· Celebrate break-up by inviting mutual friends and strangers to a "Nest-Clearing" party; he was not living with you? Then, "Chest-cleaning" !

· He cheated on you? Pretend you are cheating on him without knowing what he was up to - a winner tactic!

· He will not marry you? Get engaged in one month (fake it until you make it) to someone brand new.

· He badmouthed you with his friends? Date one of them (without having sex), pretending not to have heard of tresspass.