Instead of : "I am so out of shape" Say: "I am strong and healthy"

Instead of: "I am an emotional wreck" Say: "I accept my emotional challenges, knowing I am growing"

Instead of: "I’m a loser with no friends" Say: "I value my alone time as a chance to know myself better"

Instead of: "I’m stupid" Say: "I learn something new everyday"

Instead of: "I’m broke all time" Say: "I choose to spend my financial resources wisely"

Instead of: "I hate myself" (uh-oh) Say: "I love myself"

Now, with affirmations, they may *feel* silly at first, but you don’t need to say them out loud for them to work. Said consistently, positive affirmation becomes a belief. This belief will cause you to act in a certain way. This new action becomes your *new*, desired and wired for success, reality.

So what are you really saying about yourself?

· He is keeping old memories and pictures of Exes? You will keep telephone number of an Ex in your wallet; then ask him to hand you change from your purse. And you will make an issue of right to keep ‘the most important part of your life private'. Leave him for interfering with your ‘privacy'.Never mention his own behaviour!

· He says he loves you but does not mean it? Say before friends that love is a game for two to play and laugh gently without looking at him. The following week, diasappear without a trace for days on end. And never offer an explanation.

· He is not generous with his money with you? Do not buy him a birthday gift; give him a card with a sorry-I-wish-I-had-cash-to-buy-you-something-nice; then buy yourself a pair of shoes for $200. The same month, date a richer man.

· He had sex with a prostitute on his business trip? Clip pic of a male escort and tuck it in your Jeans pocket. Let him discover it and "swear' you never meant to actually phone guy. You are not lying after all. Soon after that, flirt with that handsome cashier at supermarket and give him your telephone number. Get him to answer phone and hand it to you. Then say: "the wrong number"! When he gets jealous, leave and never go back.You never found out about his blunder, of course.

· He surprised you with his plans to break up with you? Ask him how dares he "when you fell in love with that chap two months ago and could not do that to him". Never ask him for an explanation. Just disappear and never answer his calls or justify your strange behaviour!

· You discovered he is going on with a relationship he is supposed to have ended? Pressure, corner, accuse and expose him. Then leave him to other woman and let her know that you dumped him because you do not want him. And go on with your life as if he never existed.

· You can write? Do what I am doing and pass copies to your own friends. Publishing a book might be de rigeur for someone like Ivana, Marla or Jerry Hall to clear their image before millions. But publishing a book on subject only means you are really really angry - biggest taboo!

Those are examples to show you how to have last say in your relationships , no matter what. The key points are: never appear weak, get jealous, utter love word, seem lonely, act desperate , wish him back or confess you know something that hurt you. Getting rid of him willingly is bound to hurt him badly even if it were his own intention to break up liaison. Act like you do not care; and most important: Don't!

If he comes back to you after reciving this dose of indignation, make sure you set new standards for relationship where you will never be equal again. From this moment on, you are upper hand. He does not like it? Let him say so and go away - forever.

If you need help breaking up and breaking even, do not hesitate to contact me for brainstorming.