Waiting On Your Big Break Is Playing Desperation Life!

Written by Richard Vegas


Have you ever put all your eggs in one basket? Have you ever had so much riding on one big break that if it didn't happen you would have to move down torepparttar zoo and live off of kudzu and stump water? If you have, you're playing desperation life!

Desperation Life= Trouble Before You Start!

If you're playing desperation life, then you didn't do something right early on. Being forced to go forrepparttar 123503 big break could almost be a good definition of failure. You're hoping for a last ditch effort to pull your dream out ofrepparttar 123504 muck.

Sometimes a last ditch effort is all you need; most ofrepparttar 123505 time, you're playing Russian roulette. Ifrepparttar 123506 big break is your conscious plan then your strategy is sucking wind already.

The steady as she goes planning will increase your odds of success tremendously. You'll find that your planning and strategy will fitrepparttar 123507 game plan very nicely as there will not be nearly as much pressure on you.

Success Begets Success!

Planning forrepparttar 123508 success of a project is much better handled when you are planning your strategy in bits and pieces. Small steps alongrepparttar 123509 way will make huge strides. It's likerepparttar 123510 question, "how do you eat an elephant?" One bite at a time.

Far too often, we try to take giant steps towardrepparttar 123511 goal line to speed uprepparttar 123512 process. And, then inrepparttar 123513 process, we end up farther behind becauserepparttar 123514 faster we gorepparttar 123515 behinder we get.

Big breaks can just not be planned or forced. They just happen. Big breaks come to everyone at some time or another. If you think you've never had a big break, that's not true. You might have not recognized it, but they do come around to everyone at times, sometimes very camouflaged but, there nonetheless.

Throwing Caution To The Winds!

The guy waiting onrepparttar 123516 big break will betrepparttar 123517 whole farm on his idea. He is so sure that it will succeed thatrepparttar 123518 sky isrepparttar 123519 limit as to what he will sacrifice to have it. As stated, these ideas work sometimes, but it'srepparttar 123520 exception rather thanrepparttar 123521 rule.

The pursuit ofrepparttar 123522 big break is not wrong in and of itself. It's justrepparttar 123523 approach torepparttar 123524 big break that causes them to fail so often. We put just one strategy, plan, technique, or method into play and that's all we got. If that one method doesn't work, we're uprepparttar 123525 dirty creek without a paddle.

Byrepparttar 123526 same token, if we put together a bits and pieces plan to approach this situation, then we're really not depending onrepparttar 123527 big break. We're usingrepparttar 123528 techniques that will increase our odds of success.

Too Tired To Sleep!

The big break then often shows up and right out ofrepparttar 123529 blue presents us with a nice trophy. Butrepparttar 123530 most frustrating part is when we try to force it, gamble for it, or spend every waking hour in a gut wrenching frame of mind hoping for success from it.

For example: We have all heard ofrepparttar 123531 TV star that got his big break. He was just walking downrepparttar 123532 street and some producer saw him and made him a star.

What Can I Do? How Can I Get What I Want?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach


Aunt Bettie agreed to look after my house while I went on vacation.

She isn’t my Aunt Bettie, she’s Etta’s Aunt Betty. Etta is my neighbor acrossrepparttar street, who’s a doctor, and Aunt Bettie, who is in her late 70’s, comes over and takes care of Etta’s garden.

When I returned from my vacation, Aunt Bettie had taken my hanging basket acrossrepparttar 123502 street to care for it, and things otherwise looked fine. As I chatted with her, to thank her for looking afterrepparttar 123503 house, she was pulling plants out of Etta’s garden, live healthy plants. “Givingrepparttar 123504 others room to breathe,” she told me when I inquired – after all it isn’t that easy to grow anything in South Texas in August – “so there can be new growth and life.”

Hmm, I thought.

“I’m dying to get my hands on YOUR garden,” she said. No fool, I jumped on that one! I had vague misgivings about my garden, knowing something should be done, but that was as far as it went. I have other priorities.

Within 5 minutes Aunt Bettie was over at my house with her gloves, lopper and shears, pruning and pulling and teaching me.

An hour later we had removed a lot of this and that, including pruning allrepparttar 123505 roses down torepparttar 123506 core, and as we stood back and surveyedrepparttar 123507 area she said, “There. Now it looks like it’s ready for something to happen. And all these things will come back fuller and stronger. You need to prune.”

“In my life,” I asked, as she is a wise woman and doesn’t miss a trick. She gave me a wink and went on with her digging.

Of course I applied this to my life, and to my profession – coaching. It fits right in with tolerations, removing obstacles, andrepparttar 123508 attraction principle. Also with taking action – takingrepparttar 123509 first step.

Most important to me was to realize that I would be doing what needed doing if I knew what it was and how to get started. Gardening is Aunt Bettie’s world, as coaching is mine, and she simply knows her stuff and knows what to do. Andrepparttar 123510 most important thing she did was come over there withrepparttar 123511 right tools and do it with me.

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