True Love - Part 2Written by Adeyemi Adetosoye
Okay, so why would one person feel strongly about other and other hardly misses a beat? In my last article, I said that one of reasons is that ‘despised’ one probably isn’t one in first place. But let’s leave ‘despiser’ for now and focus on ‘despisee’. What is ‘despisee’ feeling? Why does he/she care so, almost to point of ridicule? Again, a myriad of reasons. He/she may just be a nuisance stalker or maybe has a nut loose. But what about real honest injuns? Those with impeccable backgrounds, well schooled, polished, suave types who have got it all together? What about those types? What are they feeling, assuming there is no screw loose somewhere? Surely, at some point we have encountered those types. The ‘despisee’, assuming he/she isn’t some lil’ kid with a silly crush who hardly knows what is happening half time, may actually feel that he or she’s in love. Why? BECAUSE, THE DESPISER EPITOMIZES ALL THE DESPISEE EVER WANTED IN THE OTHER PERSON, TO A LARGE EXTENT. This follows from my definition for true love (See my last article). To a large extent, despiser represents a whole lot of traits that ‘despisee’ ever wanted in first place. By same token, it is not impossible that ‘despisee’ doesn’t posses such “charming” qualities, as far as despiser is concerned, anyway. We mustn’t be too hasty, however. What if other person takes his or her time? Maybe he or she just doesn’t like to be rushed into a relationship in first place? Very valid point, but this would contradict my point about despiser hardly missing a bit, wouldn’t it? This second person is a whole different person from first, because he or she really cares, has trouble making decisions of this matter, or has something or other that is keeping him or her from making a decision right away. Anyway, such a person would generally not be fickle, in relationships. Generally, such a one wouldn’t take relationships lightly.
| | Chewing On Mindfulness: Gum Is Your SecretWritten by Maya Talisman Frost
My grandmother, a feisty and athletic woman in her younger years, was a gum-chewer. She was never without a pack or two of Wrigley's Doublemint gum. She wasn't a snapper or bubble-blower--she viewed that as highly uncivilized. Grandma kept her mouth closed, thank you very much, and her chewing silent. She insisted that it helped her concentrate. It turns out that she was right. Research has shown that chewing does indeed increase our ability to concentrate and to retain what we've learned. In fact, studies indicate that, for both kids and adults, mental tasks are completed up to 20% more effectively when we chew gum. Here's why: When we chew--whether it's food, gum or just air--we respond by salivating, which releases a surge of insulin. Our body gets ready for a meal. The insulin leads to an increased heart rate and sends glucose and oxygen to our brain. The result? This blast of brain food helps us learn faster and retain this information longer. If that's all it takes to boost learning, I'm all for it! In fact, I'd like to suggest that we chew gum as a mindfulness exercise. Really. Perhaps instead of "Om" we should be chanting "Grom-grom-grom". Why not? We already know that mindfulness can be very effectively practiced during repetitive physical activity. It's hard to find a more repetitive and less demanding activity than chewing gum!
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