How then do you determine into what category he or she would fall. Persons in first category can be readily recognized by I-don’t-care attitudes and contempt for ‘despisee’, while other shows a sincere struggle within him or herself, to come to terms with what is going on.

Since we can tell difference, next issue is addressing what issues are with this second person. This is valid, especially if one doesn’t want to get hurt in long run, or pine over what can never be.

If issue is that such a one has trouble making decisions, then time is what will let him or her know what you are worth. It is a red flag however, a warning sign. If he has trouble making a decision and you are not only one in his life at that moment, then, even though he or she really likes you, perhaps, YOU ARE NOT ALL THAT HE EPITOMIZES THE ONE TO BE. Perhaps. On other hand, if he or she is being hindered by something else, more importantly, by someone else, that is another red flag. It could be that he or she is in a relationship and met you and can’t decide what to do since meeting you. Or it could be that he or she is struggling with something not yet confided to you. A dark secret, health issues, etc.

Either way, you need to encourage openness and honesty, so that you are aware of what issues are. In this regard, depending on what issues are, time will tell in what direction relationship will swing. You will have to decide then what to do. Is he or she worth your getting hurt over? If so, prepare yourself for worst case scenario; otherwise, move on. Either way, hurt may be involved.

This brings us to second general rule for finding true love. Prepare to exercise patience, for patience is a virtue; and remember that nothing good comes easy. I’ll expound further on Finding True Love, in my next article.

Try this: Sit comfortably in any position that allows you to breathe with a relaxed belly. Pop some gum into your mouth and begin chewing.

Pay attention to burst of flavor and accompanying saliva. Feel texture of gum as it softens and stretches. Focus on chewing gum on only one side of your mouth ten times, then switch to other side. Continue as you slowly chew, allowing yourself to count to ten before switching sides again. Keep this up for about two minutes while concentrating on chewing motion.

Simple? Sure. Mindfulness IS simple. And it can become pretty easy to focus for short periods, especially if we have a particular physical activity as center of our attention. Many people find this a much easier and more effective way to experience mindfulness than simply sitting and watching thoughts.

There's no need to make mindfulness difficult, uncomfortable or woo-woo. If chewing gum is good for your brain, take advantage of it as an easy way to practice mindfulness.

On a bus? At your desk? Take a two-minute break to chew gum. Nobody needs to know what you're doing. It will be your minty little secret.

Salvation? Okay, maybe not. Here's to salivation!