True Love - Part 1Written by Adeyemi Adetosoye
True Love! We all dream of being in love with that significant other, at some point in our lives. Is it better to have loved once than not to have loved at all? If this is really case, then how do we actually find true love? How can a man or a woman really get to core of whole relationship game? What are rules of such a game?More often than not, it is not uncommon to find that either one partner feels really strongly about other, whilst other just bides time because he or she is only one “available” at time. The key to marriage and happily-ever-after, lies first and foremost, with finding right person. A lot of folks believe that there may be just one unique individual for every person in world. I however, beg to differ. Wherever one goes, there is always possibility of meeting one or more persons who uniquely match our tastes - philosophically, culturally, materially, emotionally and of course, physically (those sure do come a dime a dozen). Okay, let’s get down to brass tacks here. Why would one person be into another, whilst other hardly misses a beat? There are a myriad of reasons, reasons which I will discuss in other articles. For now, we’d discuss most fundamental one: Maybe he/she is not your “true love”. This leads us to a definition of same. What is true love? Simply put, true love is epitome of all your needs and desires in other person, to a large extent. To a large extent? I hear you ask. Surely, to a large extent, because you can NEVER meet another human being who perfectly epitomizes what you truly desire in a significant other. To a large extent, however, it is possible to find such a one, but only just so.
| | True Love - Part 2Written by Adeyemi Adetosoye
Okay, so why would one person feel strongly about other and other hardly misses a beat? In my last article, I said that one of reasons is that ‘despised’ one probably isn’t one in first place. But let’s leave ‘despiser’ for now and focus on ‘despisee’. What is ‘despisee’ feeling? Why does he/she care so, almost to point of ridicule? Again, a myriad of reasons. He/she may just be a nuisance stalker or maybe has a nut loose. But what about real honest injuns? Those with impeccable backgrounds, well schooled, polished, suave types who have got it all together? What about those types? What are they feeling, assuming there is no screw loose somewhere? Surely, at some point we have encountered those types. The ‘despisee’, assuming he/she isn’t some lil’ kid with a silly crush who hardly knows what is happening half time, may actually feel that he or she’s in love. Why? BECAUSE, THE DESPISER EPITOMIZES ALL THE DESPISEE EVER WANTED IN THE OTHER PERSON, TO A LARGE EXTENT. This follows from my definition for true love (See my last article). To a large extent, despiser represents a whole lot of traits that ‘despisee’ ever wanted in first place. By same token, it is not impossible that ‘despisee’ doesn’t posses such “charming” qualities, as far as despiser is concerned, anyway. We mustn’t be too hasty, however. What if other person takes his or her time? Maybe he or she just doesn’t like to be rushed into a relationship in first place? Very valid point, but this would contradict my point about despiser hardly missing a bit, wouldn’t it? This second person is a whole different person from first, because he or she really cares, has trouble making decisions of this matter, or has something or other that is keeping him or her from making a decision right away. Anyway, such a person would generally not be fickle, in relationships. Generally, such a one wouldn’t take relationships lightly.
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