Is YOUR wife one of
growing number of “cheating wives” in US? Is she going to be? What’s good for gander is now good for goose, according to recent studies. The number of cheating wives is growing, and may soon equal number of cheating husbands. You need to know signs, because you can’t stop her if you don’t know she’s doing it. You also need to know preventatives, because prevention is very best cure. WHY IS SHE CHEATING? 1. Opportunity. With working outside home, working out, travel and Internet, “when there’s a will there’s a MUCH easier way.”2. Desire + Permission. You can’t hit a website these days without reading about G-spot, Astroglide, and multiple orgasms. Women now have same permission as men to be into their sexuality.
3. She wants to be driven wild with desire and you don’t know how to do it. Women’s desire and arousal aren’t connected like a man’s. In fact, company that makes Viagra® has finally given up trying to make a similar pill for women, after years of research. As someone said, men are like microwaves and women are like conventional ovens, they need to be preheated.
4. You aren’t establishing emotional connection that primes preheating. Too close, too much time together, and you smother one another. Too distant, too little time with her, and she’ll look elsewhere.
5. Your relationship isn’t sensual enough. For more information on why to sensualize your relationship and practical instructions on how to, see my e-manual. “Sensualizing Your Relationship.”
6. You aren’t showing and expressing your appreciation. If she’s interested in it, and you can afford it, get it for her.
7. You’re saying too many negative things about her and relationship. Say three positive things for every negative thing. You guys are supposedly great at rule-based systems, so plug that formula in and use it. It’s Magic Formula.
8. You haven’t developed your empathy. You can’t tell her feelings and intentions. This is a big “not good” one.
9. You chose wrong in first place, and need to figure out why. WHAT ARE THE SIGNS? 1. She’s losing weight and sprucing up her appearance. New hairstyle, nails, new clothes.
2. Change in style of dress. She’s accommodating to a new man’s taste, or he’s buying her new things.
3. New lingerie you aren’t getting to see, but it’s there in lingerie drawer.
4. Phone calls at odd times. When you answer, they hang up.
5. A huge change in landline phone bill, and/or cell phone bill.
6. She’s become distant. Seems distracted. Talks to you less in general.
7. She’s lax about your comings and goings. She doesn’t care what you’re up to any more.
8. Less arguments. Her mind is elsewhere. The same things don’t matter to her any more. (In this case, less “nagging” is not a good sign.)
9. She stays away from house and has suspicious reasons for doing so.
10. She suddenly has to work late and weekends all time.
