She spends less time with them, less frequently, and says less to them. 6. Flowers arrive at house or you see them at her office.

She says they're from her boss, a colleague, her parents, or a friend.

7. Change in your sex life.

More interest in variety in sex and trying new things (she's learning new things from new guy) or she's no longer interested in sex with you.

8. Changes in children's behavior. Children are intuitive. They don't miss what's going on. They're more clingy or more argumentative, not sleeping or eating well, not doing so well at school, or complaining of things like stomach aches.

9. Unaccountable charges on your credit cards. Going over budget.

People having an affair spend money. They buy gifts for their lover, go to motels, rent cars, travel, and buy new enhancements for themselves. Women do this just as much as men.

10. Disappearing to spend time on Internet.

A way to meet new people, or to communicate by email or IM.

11. She’s weakened relations with her parents, spending less time with them, less visits, saying less. Same with girlfriends.

12. You come home early and find a babysitter. (Let’s hope you don’t find lover.)

13. You find telltale things in glove box and trunk of car; fancy lingerie, notes, cards, phone numbers.

14. Flowers arriving at house. She says they’re from her boss, a colleague or a friend.

15. Unaccountable charges on your credit cards.

16. You’re over budget. She’s asking for more money. People having an affair spend money. They buy gifts for their lover, go to motels, rent cars, travel. Women do this just as much as men.

17. Disappearing to spend time on Internet. A good way to meet people or to conduct an affair.

18. Strange emails. If you have joint email, check it out.

19. Changes in children’s behaviour. Children don’t miss what’s going on.

20. Change in your sex life. More interest in variety in sex and new things. She’s learning something new from new guy. Or she’s no longer interested in sex with you.

21. Lapses in routines. She’s no longer that interested when you track in mud, whether you drop your dirty clothes on floor, or working in her garden. Studies show that many people who have affairs aren’t interested in leaving their spouses. If you catch signs early, you can do something about it. A good, supportive marital relationship can generally bear strain of temptation. It goes without saying it relies on emotional intelligence and relationship skills. Women particularly need emotional connection, and sensual time as well as sexual. One key to a marriage that will last is if couple can sense when one another is sad. Can you tell when she is? If not, work on your EQ. It’s empathy, an EQ competency. Another sign is when number of positive things they say about each other and relationship outnumber negative things. All couples have problems, but attitude and relationship skills can tip balance. If you’re saying, “It’s not that bad yet,” look again. Why would you wait until it IS that bad. Desire comes from arousal with women when there is intimacy and emotional connection. You know this, and if you’re ignoring it, you may be re-reading those 21 signs and adding some more of your own. I hear men say all time, “I had no idea she was unhappy. She just walked out one day.” This sort of “cluelessness” is probably what made her wander in first place. She may have been telling you all along something was wrong and you weren't hearing it (selective listening). All of this can be addressed by working on your emotional intelligence. If you're not good at reading her feelings and intention, this can be fatal to your relationship with your wife. The good news is you can learn Emotional Intelligence, and improve your relationship and chances of being cheated on. If you don’t want your wife to cheat on you, get smart. Get EMOTIONALLY smart!