1.To have your needs met.No matter how legitimate you feel they are, or how obligated you feel
other party is to you, it isn’t a requirement, and sometimes isn’t even possible. Learn to meet your own needs!
2.To feel good about everything all
time.
You can survive negative emotions (they don’t last long), and taking your emotional temperature all
time is counter-productive.
3.To be
center of
universe.
There are always other people, and other wills to consider. Be willing to be
trailer sometimes, not
main attraction. It isn’t always about you.
4.To have your expectations met.
The lower your expectations, in fact,
better you’re likely to feel, because then you can only be happily surprised. Deal with intention, not expectations. How you intend to be, and act; not how you expect things to be, or others to act. You can experience great joy planning a trip. When it doesn’t live up to your expectations, be glad you had
planning process! As Eisenhauer (US president) said, planning is useless, but necessary.
5.To dish out what you don’t want to get back.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are all too often true. If you’re bitter and cynical and expect
worst, that’s likely what you’re going to get. If you expect
best from others, that’s also what you’re likely to get.
6.Justice.
Yes, it’s supposedly one of your inalienable rights, but that’s not always what you’ll get in real life. Bad things do happen to good people. However, quite often if you look back on events, you will see they worked out for
best in
long run. While life is not always fair, there is a sort of rough justice out there. It takes perspective, however …