7.To lie and sleep well at night.

Authenticity has its own rewards, one of them being that you can look in mirror and like person you look at.

8.To judge and criticize others and feel good about yourself.

When we judge others, we’re asking for same in return. It’s often allied to perfectionism, which is a formula designed to make you miserable. Demanding perfection of yourself or anyone else is a sure-fire way to be unhappy.

9.Unconditional love.

Even Freud said only true love was that of a mother for her son (he being a son, of course, to a mother.) Aside from that there are always "conditions" to mortal love and that’s just something you’ll have to deal with.

10.To not be bored.

Your boredom is in your own hands, or rather in your own brain. You must keep generating new experiences and challenges for yourself, and learn to look at old things with new eyes. Your brain needs just same workout as your body does. Studies are showing we can keep generating new cells and new connections throughout our lifetime WITh right stimulation.

New toys and new playmates must constantly be sought! Get out of your field, and out of your element often enough to keep yourself interested. It’s up to you!

ADAPTATION REQUIRED: Tina's husband divorced her. He took most of couple's assets and left her with all debts, so she was forced to file bankruptcy. Because of social set they moved in, she lost many friends. At same time her last child left for college, she got downsized, her mother died, and she developed breast cancer.

ADJUSTING: You know you can do it. You just may not want to.

ADAPTING: You have a sense you don't have what it takes to cope with it.

Key Point

Understanding changes that adaptation will require helps you through transition, which is often more like a metamorphosis. It can feel like having to grow wings! When you face a situation requiring ADJUSTING, you think, "Things have changed." When you face a situation requiring ADAPTING, you think, "I will never be same again."

Benefits

Much more of you is required in an adaptation. Major life changes will require you to leave major things behind, and learn new ways, sometimes new ways of "being". It can be as challenging as learning to breathe air instead of water. An adaptation requires strong emotional intelligence skills, which can be learned.

Related distinctions

Your new in-laws speak with a heavy Southern drawl vs. Your new in-laws speak only Russian

You have a new baby boy vs. your wife gives birth to quintuplets You break your ankle in a car accident vs. You lose both your legs in a car accident