The snake made me do it! Really? You have heard it before, haven't you? This one is 'the snake made me do it story' with a subtle twist. You will want to hear it, believe me!The other day an acquaintance of mine told me he was angry. Out of
blue?
We were sitting round
table, engaging in small talk. I asked him what
cause of his anger. He replied it was something related to his brother's behavior. His main concern though was how he could get rid of his anger.
The short conversation that ensued highlighted some interesting issues about ...
Briefly, this is how it went:
Me: "So, you have a problem with your brother's behavior?"
Him: "Yes, I do. And he makes me mad, very mad."
Me: "Does your brother make you mad? Or you choose to be mad because of your brother's behavior?"
You see, it all comes down to one word. That one word is 'choice'. What we choose, when something happens. You may be aware of it, but there are moments everyday when you have to make choices. Those moments are crucial because minute though they may be,
choices that we make during them are life-changing.
An event happens. For some reasons your response is required. At that moment you make a choice about
kind of response that you deem appropriate.
So, based on your interpretation of what has happened, you choose any one of your 'best behavior demanded by this situation'. And, if you were my acquaintance you would be angry. But why? Really, why?
The event, whatever it is, is just an event. What is important in
whole equation is your choice. You might not have been responsible for
event/situation, but for as long as you live, you are responsible for your response.
Sometimes
event is an extremely bad one. The kind we call bad luck, very unfortunate! When this kind of situation occurs to you, you ask yourself: "Why me, why not my cat or neighbor?"
Even here I am maintaining that no matter
event/situation, you are ultimately responsible for your responses. Taking responsibility for your responses is one of
first steps in owning your life. When you own your responses you dictate
terms of your success, and of your way forward.