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Title: The Poison of Resentment Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2004 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 733 Category: Self Improvement
The Poison of Resentment By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Actress Susan Saint James, in a TV interview after terrible plane crash that claimed life of her 14 year old son Teddy, and injured her husband, NBC Sports Chairman Dick Ebersol, and her son Charles, made following brilliant statement: “Resentment is like taking poison and then expecting other person to die.” Even in face of her great loss, she is not angry, blaming, or resentful.
Resentment and blame are poisons to soul. They are far more harmful to you than to anyone else. Our ego/wounded self believes that if we blame and resent someone, we can somehow have control over that person or over outcome of things. But what resentment really does is pull us into darkness of seeing ourselves as a victim.
It’s very helpful to think of resentment as poisoning yourself while expecting other to somehow be hurt by it. If you can think of anger, blame and resentment as poisons to soul, perhaps this will make it easier to release these dark feelings.
These feeling do not come out of nowhere. They are result of your thoughts and beliefs. For example, if you have thought, as Susan could have had, “God is punishing me,” you will likely see yourself as a victim and feel angry and resentful. But having this thought or belief does not make it a reality. The resulting resentment is actually Spirit’s way of letting you know that you are off track in your thinking. Thoughts that cause anger, fear, and resentment are thoughts that are being made up by wounded self. They are not based on truth. The truth never causes anger and fear. The truth can certainly cause sadness and grief, such as reality that Susan’s son is gone. But anger and resentment are not same as sadness and grief. Anger and resentment are result of blaming someone or something.
