Susan’s truth, which she stated in interview, is that her son Teddy has ended one phase of his life and started another. Her faith in God as a loving source is sustaining her. Her belief that soul does not die, but leaves when it is finished with what it needed to learn here, is making it possible for her to grieve without resentment. She is not allowing this great loss to poison her soul.

The literal biblical translation of word “sin” is “off mark.” When our thinking and behavior are off mark, we are “sinning” because we are not in truth. God is truth, love, peace, and joy. When we are not in love and truth, we are off mark. Being off mark in our thinking results in negativity – in anger, fear, anxiety, depression, resentment, blame. Negativity is harmful to soul. This is a “sin” against ourselves.

Our ego wounded self - which originates in mind and is part of us that wants control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe - constantly makes up thoughts that are off mark. The ego is incapable of knowing what is true and what is not. It thinks it is wise and knowing, but in reality it is always “off mark.” All thoughts that come from ego are based on desire for control over others and outcomes. The desire to control is opposite of desire to love and be in truth, and is therefore off mark.

Truth does not originate in mind. Truth comes into mind from Spirit when we are open to learning about love and truth. Truth never creates resentment.

Anger, resentment, anxiety, fear, depression – these feelings are signals that you are not in truth, that you are allowing your ego to have dominion over your soul. When you open your heart to learning truth and learning what is loving to yourself and others, you will move out of negative feelings and into peace and joy that come from being in truth, even in face of sadness and grief. Even in her grief, Susan Saint James’s face was filled with light of truth. There was no darkness in her being as she shared her experience with us. Thank you, Susan, for your courage, love and faith. You have given us a great gift.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

--I take a work break, drive into town and get coffee at my favorite independent coffee shop with my husband.

--I turn off my phone, ignore email and descend into creative bliss when writing.

-- I take a moment to stare out a window and notice way rain, snow or sunshine is reflecting off glass at just that moment.

--I attend a yoga class and gratefully stretch both my mind and limbs to their full expression.

--I take a deep breath and feel it extend my abdomen.

--I drive slowly and in silence.

--I rhythmically clean my house, cook a meal, wrap a gift or wash dishes (yes, I sometimes like feel soapy hot water on my hands).

--I sit anywhere and watch world for a moment - people, trees and clouds...whatever is happening in front of me from my vantage point.

--I sing (badly too, trust me).

When I do these things I am temporarily "free floating" and my mind is at some level disengaged from need to achieve. It is a place where small moments of joy live.

With holiday season upon us, I invite you to occasionally unhook and allow yourself to free float. Your reward will come to you in form of more peace, comfort and joy.