Dads are solid foundation of our lives. They are shore we swim to when our arms and legs feel increasingly tired. They are strength we rely on as we take our first tentative steps into world. Dads can be tender, tough, fragile or powerful but they are probably most uncomplicated love we will ever know. For daughters, Daddy is first man they adore ... first man whose eyes shine with overwhelming amazement when they look at us. He is first man to fall in love with us.

For sons, Daddy is idol they first aspire to emulate ... their mirror image of what will be and possibly only man they will ever feel comfortable loving.

Bullies are kids who have tremendous low self-esteem. They feel better about themselves by tormenting another, usually smaller or weaker child. If a bully decides to pick on someone that is not smaller in size but otherwise imagined as weak, they will usually have a gang around to further ensure unfairness of battle. They do not fight fair, nor do they understand compassion, dignity or basic integrity. Gee, wonder where they learned these lovely qualities?

A larger, stronger individual has most likely bullied a child who feels need to bully another smaller or weaker child. Parents or caretakers who regularly torment or abuse their children are teaching these children to torment and abuse others who are not able to stand up to their size, strength or perceived power. These parents or caretakers are bullies themselves. Adult bullies are spouse beaters, verbal abusers, child abusers and type of person we see personified in fiction as menace to weaker, gentler people everywhere. They are ones we love to hate in movies and books. Sadly, they are merely carrying on tradition of their upbringing.

All we can do is teach our children to stand up for themselves in this situation ... to avoid kids who have nothing better to do than torture other children and how to defend themselves if they ever do become target of a bully.

We do not regularly teach our children to kick someone's teeth down their throat or fill their ears with a vicious verbal attack but I do believe that, under extenuating circumstances, children should be taught to fight back, to do whatever it takes to stop their attacker. Children might ignore a name caller or walk away from an instigator, but to do nothing when physically hurt by another child (or adult) leaves them defenseless. I have told my daughters to never start a fight but to always finish one, if possible. They have my total approval in defending themselves, whatever it takes. As much as we don't want to tell our kids to hurt another, do we really want to see our kids get hurt themselves? Of course not.