Success at Work : People Skills : Complaining

Written by Stephen Bucaro


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Success at Work : People Skills : Complaining

By Stephen Bucaro

Do you know an individual at work who is a chronic complainer? Are YOU a chronic complainer? People don't like complainers. Listening to a chronic complainer gets people depressed. They prefer to associate with people that make them feel good. If you are always complaining about something, people will start to ignore you.

If you're a chronic complainer, you're sabotaging yourself and your success at work. In this article, I explain how you can improve your outlook at work and improve your prospects for success. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with reality.

People are not perfect and you shouldn't expect them to be. An organization is a group of people, so no company or organization can be perfect. If you expect your organization to be perfect, you need to change your expectations.

Instead of expecting things to be perfect, expect everything to be totally screwed up at all times. Then onrepparttar 122943 rare occasion when something does go right, you will be pleasantly surprised.

There are many problems that you can't do anything about. Learn to work aroundrepparttar 122944 things you can't change. Some things you can change. Instead of whining and complaining, take responsibility for a problem you can solve. Don't try to changerepparttar 122945 world, focus on improving your own little corner ofrepparttar 122946 company.

You might realize that there are many problems you might be able to solve. Don't try to solve allrepparttar 122947 problems at once. Prioritizerepparttar 122948 things that you view as problems and choose your battles. Attackrepparttar 122949 most important problem first.

When you complain, limit your complaint to one problem and be specific. Along with your complaint, suggest a realistic solution. If you can't think of a realistic solution torepparttar 122950 problem, then how do you expect someone else to solverepparttar 122951 problem?

Sometimes it's best to put your complaint in writing. Put your written complaint aside for a day. Don't submit your complaint until your writing is clear, logical, and carefully thought out. Byrepparttar 122952 time you finish, you may realize that you didn't completely understandrepparttar 122953 problem, or you may decide thatrepparttar 122954 problem isn't worth complaining about after all.

How to Set Boundaries and Say No

Written by Joy Fisher-Sykes


We are constantly bombarded daily with requests for our time. While helping others can be very rewarding, atrepparttar same time we can feel distraught about constantly obligating ourselves to others while not fulfilling our own needs. We can feel distressed about constant commitments to do things we simply don’t haverepparttar 122940 time, energy or desire to do.

At times, we may immediately feelrepparttar 122941 urge to say no, but instead lose our courage, and concede yet again. The question is why? Is it because:

* You fear you won’t be liked or feel a strong need to please everyone * You have to always keeprepparttar 122942 calendar full so you feel needed and important * You undervaluerepparttar 122943 need for down time and forget simply not wanting to do anything is a legitimate reason to say no * You would rather not deal withrepparttar 122944 consequences of saying no and allrepparttar 122945 feelings that come with it.

Setting boundaries and saying no is taking personal responsibility for your well-being. This requires you to clearly speak up, and specifically ask for what you want. Your decision to say no to requests from family, friends, and co-workers doesn’t have to be filled with feelings of uneasiness and guilt. It fact, it’s important you rememberrepparttar 122946 decision to say no is strictly a personal choice – yours!

Whether at work, with family, or friends, you can say no with diplomacy, tact, and respect. Here some ways you can embrace your personal power and assert your right to say no.

Be sure you have allrepparttar 122947 facts Before making a commitment, be sure you have a complete understanding of exactly what’s being asked of you. You may feel confused because you just don’t have enough information to make a decision. You haverepparttar 122948 right to ask as many questions as necessary. Ask yourself “Is this a unreasonable request?” When someone makes a request, he or she is usually tuned into “WIIFM” (What’s In It For Me). People are not necessarily concerned with whether or not a request is in your best interest. If you feel hesitant, trapped or otherwise uncomfortable – go with your gut and say no. These uneasy feelings probably indicate saying yes isn’t best.

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