Start Your Day on Your Terms

Written by Mark Susnow


Most of us startrepparttar day like we're trying to catch a train. We wake up, grab a cup of coffee, look atrepparttar 130914 paper and listen torepparttar 130915 news. We rush out ofrepparttar 130916 house to make an appointment or deadline or to putrepparttar 130917 finishing touches on a project. From deadline to appointment it goes. When we leave work we have other responsibilities and obligations, and it doesn't end until we go to sleep, and for some it still doesn't end. We never do catchrepparttar 130918 train. We forgot one essential thing. We arerepparttar 130919 conductor andrepparttar 130920 train can't go anywhere without us. What if you knew deep inside thatrepparttar 130921 train was not going anywhere? What would it take to developrepparttar 130922 wisdom that there was a better way? What changes could you implement that would make a difference? I was a busy trial lawyer for thirty years, always running to catchrepparttar 130923 train. I still remember racing torepparttar 130924 court room full of coffee and stress until I realized I wasrepparttar 130925 conductor of my life. That realization allowed me to make life altering changes that continue to make my life more enjoyable, more successful and more fulfilling. It all starts with creating your perfect morning. This is your morning, no one else's. Consider waking up to music you love, rather than torepparttar 130926 music or news on your alarm clock. Then before doing anything else take 10-15 minutes and sit silently thinking about all you're grateful for. Then start to wonder whatrepparttar 130927 highlight of your day could be. From this new vantage point you might even skip that cup of coffee or that cigarette. As you leave your house and beginrepparttar 130928 flow of your day you look at each experience and wonder if this is going to berepparttar 130929 highpoint of your day knowing there is more to come. The concept of looking atrepparttar 130930 highlight ofrepparttar 130931 day can be used in any situation even one that seems unpleasant. Looking forrepparttar 130932 highlight in this experience or this person can totally change your attitude. Asrepparttar 130933 day unfolds, if you sense that things inside are heating up, consider taking a little break. You might even stretch for five minutes or walk aroundrepparttar 130934 block. As your day progressesrepparttar 130935 biggest difference isrepparttar 130936 knowledge that you can be busy and be relaxed.

The Difference Between Approval and Appreciation

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long asrepparttar author resource box atrepparttar 130912 end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: The Difference Between Approval and Appreciation Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 693 Category: Relationships/Communication/Emotional Healing

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN APPROVAL AND APPRECIATION By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Having worked with individuals, couples, families and business partners for 35 years, helping them learn to resolve conflict, I have often been faced withrepparttar 130913 difficulties that occur when people are confused aboutrepparttar 130914 difference between approval with appreciation. Have you ever wondered aboutrepparttar 130915 difference between approval and appreciation? Most of us have never actually thought about it, yet if we do think about it, we realize that we feel very differently when we receive approval as opposed to receiving appreciation. There are good reasons for this.

Approval is something we give from a wounded, controlling part of us. Approval is conditional uponrepparttar 130916 other person performing inrepparttar 130917 way we want or expect. Approval is manipulative - that is, we give it with an outcome in mind. We hope thatrepparttar 130918 other person will continue to do what we want as a result ofrepparttar 130919 approval.

Appreciation, onrepparttar 130920 other hand, is something we offer from a whole loving place within - what I callrepparttar 130921 loving Adult. It comes fromrepparttar 130922 heart and is offered spontaneously asrepparttar 130923 heart wells up with feelings of delight, awe, joy, or love regarding another’s way of being. Appreciation has much more to do withrepparttar 130924 essence of a person rather than with performance. We are appreciating a person’s core Self, who they really are andrepparttar 130925 results of who they are, rather than what they do and their performance. With appreciation, there is no attachment torepparttar 130926 outcome, no expectation thatrepparttar 130927 other should or will continue to perform. Appreciation is a true gift.

Often, when someone says they want appreciation or do not feel appreciated, what they are really seeking is approval. It isrepparttar 130928 wounded part of them who is not feeling seen and appreciated within - they are not seeing and appreciating themselves so they need it from others to feel worthy. The wounded self ofrepparttar 130929 individual projects outwardrepparttar 130930 inner need to be seen, understood and appreciated and pulls from others to get this need met. Whenever I hear someone say that they do not feel appreciated, I know that their essence - their Inner Child - is not being seen and loved by their own inner adult.

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