Start Your Day on Your TermsWritten by Mark Susnow
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I have found that starting day this way increases my energy and efficiency throughout day. When I leave my house centered and focused there is a much greater likelihood that I can maintain this balance throughout day. There has been plenty of research by psychologists demonstrating value of taking time for morning meditation or creative silence. I have been doing this for over thirty years and very rarely feel overwhelmed. I laugh more and generally enjoy my day. Of course I have my challenges and lose my focus periodically, but not for long. And before I go to sleep I again think about what was most special about this day. The one thing I do know for certain is that there‘s a direct correlation between how I start my day and quality of my life. Try a little experiment. For next thirty days start your day on your own terms and discover dramatic changes that are possible.Speak with you soon, Mark Mark Susnow, formerly a trial attorney for 30 years, is a coach, speaker, musician, and group facilitator who motivates and empowers others to live life they want and deserve. He lives in Marin County, and on island of Kauai, with his wife and family. www.inspirepossibility.com
Mark Susnow, formerly a trial attorney for 30 years, is a coach, speaker, musician, and group facilitator who motivates and empowers others to live the life they want and deserve. He lives in Marin County, and sometimes on the island of Kauai, with his wife and family. 415 453 5016 mark@inspirepossibility.com www.inspirepossibility.com
| | The Difference Between Approval and AppreciationWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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When we are giving ourselves attention and appreciation that we need and we then receive appreciation from others, it feels wonderful but it is icing on cake, not cake itself. When it becomes cake itself, then we need to look within and recognize that we have handed over to others job of defining and validating our own worth and lovability. When you share something about yourself with intent of getting approval, attention or appreciation, it doesn’t feel like sharing to other people. Instead they feel pulled at to validate you. When you share something about yourself with intent of offering something to others, it feels like a gift. This is clearly illustrated in wonderful movie, Good Will Hunting. In this movie therapist, played by Robin Williams, shares much personal information about himself with his client Will, an angry and resistant young man. He shared it, not because he wanted or needed anything back, but purely to help Will feel safe in opening to his own pain. We can all challenge ourselves to be aware of our intent when we offer positive feedback to others - is it a true gift or does it have strings attached? And we can challenge ourselves to be aware of our intent when we share things about ourselves - are we giving or trying to get? Giving to get doesn't feel good to others who are at other end of pull, and getting what we want from others feels good only for moment, but is ultimately tiring for us. It is tiring to always be trying to get from others what we need to be giving to ourselves. Giving appreciation and sharing ourselves from a loving heart, with no need to get anything back, will always feel wonderful and energizing to us and to others.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com
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