Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Mark sought my help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didn’t want to break uprepparttar family.

“Mark,” I asked, “Were you ever in love with Linda?”

“Yes, atrepparttar 146862 beginning of our relationship.”

“Then what happened?”

“Linda seemed to get really insecure once I started my new business and had long work days. Even though I think I gave her a lot of attention onrepparttar 146863 weekends, she started getting angry pretty much every day. Then after our son was born, she seemed even more unhappy and irritable. She gets mean when she’s angry and I just don’t find that appealing. I don’t feel close to her anymore.”

“Have you said anything to her about this?” I asked.

“No,” he replied. “She already seems so unhappy. I don’t want to hurt her feelings.”

“So how do you handle it?”

“I guess I just sort of shut down and pretend that everything is okay. But I’m spending more and more time at work because I don’t like being at home and recently I met another woman that I’m attracted to. I realize I’ve got to do something about this.”

“Do you really think that leaving her will cause less hurt than telling her your truth?”

“Well, if I just leave then I don’t have to deal with her hurt.”

“Mark, that’s a lack of courage and integrity. And you have two children to think about. You once loved Linda and it’s possible that you could again, but only if you are willing to be honest. You need to give Linda a chance to deal with this. She has no idea what’s going on. She might decide to deal with her anger, or she might not, but at least give her a chance to make that decision. And relationship problems are never one-sided. Perhaps she has things to say to you too.”

Mark decided to tell Lindarepparttar 146864 truth, even though he was really scared. He told her that her anger was pushing him away, and that he didn’t like being home anymore because he felt so blamed and controlled by her. He told her that he was attracted to another woman who was treating him with kindness and caring, and that he wanted this from Linda. He told her he had been thinking of leaving and had sought my help and that I told him to tellrepparttar 146865 truth. He asked her if she would join him in counseling.

Why Do Men and Women Misunderstand Each Other So Much

Written by Jeff Cuckson

Joke from a Woman to another Woman "Some husbands are living proof that a woman can take a joke!"

Joke from a Man to another Man; "Men are Vain, They will check themselves out inrepparttar mirror. However women are ridiculous; they will check their reflections in any shiny surface, mirrors, spoons, shop windows."

Then why do YOU think women misunderstand men and vice-versa? One basic fact of life. Women and men are different. I am not talking about their physical attributes, but in their attitudes to relationships.

I am a man, writing this article. I have tried to be fair, but can I tell you ladies, I just can't understand you most ofrepparttar 146706 time. But I am sure that most of you would answer, that you can't understand us men.

I have been guilty of most ofrepparttar 146707 attitudes listed, especiallyrepparttar 146708 shopping which I hate. Therefore to go a little way in imparting some understanding, here are 10 situations whererepparttar 146709 thinking of men and women go in opposite directions;

1) ANGER: When Anger or another problem enters a relationship A woman will want to repairrepparttar 146710 situation or problem before any sex. A man will think that making love will make it all right again.

2) TOUCHING: For women touching without sex is comforting and very soothing. They find thatrepparttar 146711 touching gives a warm feeling of security. However for men touching without sex can easily be misunderstood and he can even feel threatened.

Please understand that when men touch each other, it is in a rough manner. They slap or punch each other onrepparttar 146712 back. Tender touching makes many men feel vulnerable and dependent. These have been seen by men to be un masculine. Men find it uncomfortable with so much closeness. It makes them feel vulnerable.

However women are not comfortable without this type of intimacy.

3) TELEPHONE: Men userepparttar 146713 telephone or mobile phone as a communication device. It is to send short messages to each other.

However women seerepparttar 146714 telephone differently. They use it to keep in touch with their friends supporting, helping and growing relationships. They are more interested in people and feelings than objects such as telephones andrepparttar 146715 latest video games.

4) SEX: When it comes to foreplay, women prefer 40-45 minutes of foreplay. However men onrepparttar 146716 other hand prefer 40-45 seconds of foreplay before sex

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