Linda was shocked. She had no idea all this was going on with Mark. She thought she was only one feeling so unloved in relationship. At first she reacted exactly as Mark feared, with anger, hurt, and blame. But he told her truth about this too – that he had been afraid to be truthful with her because of this reaction, and that if she wanted truth, she need to be open to it rather than closed and angry. Finally Linda heard him and they were able to talk honestly for first time in years. Linda was actually relieved at hearing truth, once she got over initial shock and they were able to talk. She agreed to counseling.

In counseling, Mark discovered that Linda also had been afraid to be honest with Mark, fearing that he would withdraw even more. She was just as afraid of his withdrawal as he was of her anger. They discovered that both of them had been protecting against their fears rather than being open to learning with each other. As they both opened to learning, love gradually came back into their relationship.

People often believe that they are withholding their truth to spare their partner pain, but their real intent is to protect themselves from response they fear. Protecting against pain – with anger, withdrawal, and blame - will always bring about very pain we fear, while opening to learning and speaking our truth opens door to love.

5) GOING OUT: When a man says he is ready to go out, it means he is ready to go out. However when a woman says she is ready to go out, it means she is ready, as soon as she finds her other piece of jewellery and makes just one more phone call.

6) SHOPPING: Women can shop all day and enjoy whole experience. Its a chance to talk. They use talk to build and sustain connections with others. However men just want finish and close situation. Its their nature. One can view this difference anytime with couples in shopping malls.

7) BATHROOMS: A man has on average around 5-6 items in his bathroom. A woman on other hand has over 200 items in her bathroom. Make no attempt to ask a man to identify all these items.

8) DRESSING UP: A woman will dress up to go shopping, gardening, answer phone, or get post. A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

9) CHILDREN: A woman knows all about her children. She knows about doctors and dentists appointments. All their friends, their favorite and not so favorite foods, plus their secret fears and their hopes and dreams. Most men, though not as many as years ago, are aware of some short people sharing home.

10) TOYS: Little girls love to play with toys. Then when they reach age of approximately 12, they seem to lose interest. However, men NEVER grow out of their obsession with toys. As they get older, toys simply get more expensive. One shopping channel has a section called "Big Boys Toys."

In ending this article I would like to stress points Not all women are alike - Not all men are alike.

There have been great men and great women who have made this world such a better place. No matter what sex you are I leave you with this quote that applies to all of us.

*********************************** Be kind. Remember, everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

--Thompson *************************************

I wish you perfect health and piece of mind in all that you do .

Jeff Cuckson

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