Psycho or Jealous?

There are very few articles and resources addressing topic of jealousy. I have come to conclusion that this is merely because people don't know what stance to take on situation. Everyone has been on both sides of fence. Most of us have experienced a jealous lover and many of us have been in a relationship where we curiously find ourselves being insecure and jealous by nature. On one hand you want to condemn abhorrent behavior exhibited by jealous partners while on other hand you might be able to sympathize. I have decided to courageously announce my decided opinion. Jealousy is just another euphemism for psychotic behavior.

Without going too far into psychology of jealousy, you should understand that jealousy is not an innate feeling that we are all born with; rather it is a learned response that people have developed over time to deal with certain situations. We all have ability to feel anguish and emotional sorrow, and jealousy is one way we cope with these feelings. Jealousy can rear its ugly green head at any time. You never know what will set it off. Some people can be completely at ease with one lover and insanely jealous with another lover. People have potential to get jealous for a multitude of reasons. They might have low self esteem, have been rejected or betrayed in past or feel insecure about their body or looks to name a few.

I would venture to say that a small amount of jealousy in any relationship is normal. It might even be considered a good thing because it shows that deep emotions are tied to this relationship. But jealousy should not be confused as a sign of love. Severe jealousy is exact opposite of love. Emma Goldman, an early 20th century writer, claimed that “Its (jealousy) one desire is to punish, and to punish as severely as possible”. She was very right. There are obvious big, bright and bold lines that are crossed all too often. You have probably dated one of these line crossers; I have dated more than enough. This is when jealousy becomes apparent psychotic behavior. Your lover begins to assume that you are cheating on some level or another and you are being dishonest almost every day. Soon you get to point where that person is doing a stake out of your home, following you around like a private eye, breaking into your email accounts, slashing your tires and smearing chocolate cake on your door (Yes, someone actually smeared cake on my door in a jealous rage). When you get to point where you can not even say one word to a member of opposite sex at a party because you fear inevitable wrath which will follow from your lover when you get home, your relationship is in jeopardy.

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