Advice: Perseverance vs. Being Stubborn

Perseverance vs. Being Stubborn

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach

DEFINITIONS

Perseverance - To go on resolutely in spite of opposition, importunity, or obstacles; to remain unchanged or fixed in a specified character, condition, or position; to stick with something, especially something difficult or challenging

Being stubborn - Bring unreasonably or perversely unyielding; mulish; unyielding and unopen to reason; performed or carried on in an obstinate or rigid manner; difficult to handle, manage or treat

COMPARISONS

Going forward vs. Stonewalling

Working toward something vs. Refusing to do something

Having a positive goal vs. Having a negative goal

EXAMPLE

Henry Ward Beecher said, "The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and and repparttar other from a strong won't."

Selina persevered in her goal of becoming a teacher. She kept at it despite a lot of obstacles. At one point she had to stop and take a job to pay repparttar 101618 tuition. At another time, her study was interrupted when her husband was transferred. To get her degree and become a teacher took a lot of time, energy and money, but she persevered and achieved her goal.

Hearing vs. Listening

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, the EQ Coach

DEFINITIONS

Hearing - To perceive or apprehend by repparttar ear; to gain knowledge of by hearing; to listen to with attention. Listening - To pay attention to sound; to hear something with thoughtful attention; to give consideration; to be alert to catch an unexpected sound.

COMPARISONS

To really key in to what repparttar 101617 person is saying and not saying. To look for repparttar 101618 meaning and repparttar 101619 feelings behind what is being said. To go beyond repparttar 101620 words. Giving your deepest level of attention. vs. Simply receiving repparttar 101621 words which can become only "sounds". Not trying to understand, ot get below repparttar 101622 surfce. Giving only peremptory attention. Not absorbing feelings or taking in any new information.

EXAMPLE

Mary sat and let Nancy explain repparttar 101623 new project she wanted to initiate, but Mary's mind was already made up. She had made up her mind beforehand she didn't want to do and had closed her mind. She just sat and let Nancy explain as a matter of courtesy, but didn't take in any new information. She had already decided to say "no".

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