OvereagerWritten by Jennifer Lester
Dear Jen,It has been over two years since I had a man in my life. Finally, I have met a man named John* that I really like. I am just afraid that I am going to scare him away by being overeager. We met online and talked for two weeks before we finally met. Now, we have been on only two dates, but I can’t seem to get my mind off of him. I feel almost obsessed and am afraid he is going to see it too and be scared away. What can I do to calm myself down and get a better perspective on situation. Sincerely, Kristin* Dear Kristin*, You are not alone. I think many of us (especially females) have found ourselves in same situation at one time or another. You are right, however, to realize that this could scare John* away. Nothing seems to turn guys off faster then a woman who seems to worship him right off bat. They start to wonder if there is something wrong with this woman since she can’t seem to see any of flaws he knows he has. Act friendly towards him, even affectionate within reason for this stage in your relationship. Unless he is a completely blind idiot, he will know you are interested. Do not make yourself too available or he is going to think you have no life. No reason to lie to him here, you just have to get yourself up off your couch and get a hobby, go to gym, go out with your girlfriends, or spend time with family. Not only will this make you more attractive to him because you appear to have a life, but these activities will also help you get your mind off of him so that you do not obsess. By all means, do not start to talk commitment with this man yet, it is too early in your budding relationship and “c” word is one of scariest words in English language for most men. You shouldn’t go that route until he uses other scary word (love) with you first.
| | Getting Started AgainWritten by Jennifer Lester
Dear Jen, I am a 31 year old woman and haven’t dated in 3 years. I went through a bad break-up and haven’t been same since. How would you suggest I get started?Signed, Broken but Mending Dear Broken and Mending, Let me start by saying I am sorry to hear about pain you have had. As they say, "time heals all wounds". I would normally advise anyone to take their time to work on themselves first. Before you dive into dating pool again, you need to be certain that you are feeling good about yourself and are really ready to share yourself with another person. If you feel you are ready now, then an online dating service is a great way to start. An online dating service will give you a chance to set your own pace. Start by looking over
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