I know you are wondering how you can not be throwing yourself at him while you are in this super-emotional, needy state. You have to realized that there is a good chance that your feelings about John* are less about man himself then about your fear of being alone. You may feel that if he goes away, your chances at love and a relationship go with him. This is absolutely not true! You say you met online so you know how many fish are out there in that big ocean.

You may feel like pickings are slim since it has been two years since you have dated, but even that train of thought is wrong. Many people need to have time to really work on themselves and their emotional state of being. You can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself first. Maybe it is just now that you are finally ready. If this is true, then you will find many more prospects online just as you found John* if it doesn’t work out between two of you.

I am not saying to give up on John*, just to give other men a chance in meantime. You are not in a committed relationship, so don’t commit yourself so quickly. Keep your doors of opportunity open and keep communicating and dating other men until right one is ready to make that commitment with you. John is not last man in universe, so don’t treat him as such. Remember, most important person in your life is you.

*Names are changed to protect anonymity