Some lessons life has taught me:I CREATE MY OWN REALITY.
I firmly believe that I have created every item, person and situation in my life. Even
ones that seem way outside of my ability to create. Even ones I don't like. I believe that we make a choice before we enter this life to experience particular emotions and we, unconsciously for most part, find things, people and situations that will allow us to feel those emotions. This is a very powerful concept. For one thing, it immediately makes us stop being victims. By accepting responsibility for everything present in my life today, I claim power to create everything in my life tomorrow.
Every experience in life is an opportunity to learn. The trick is to ask, as quickly as possible, 'what have I learned from this? Who am I today that I wouldn't be if this didn't happen?'. Sometimes it's about learning how to take care of ourselves. Sometimes it's just about experiencing a feeling or emotion that we hadn't felt before. The important thing is to learn lesson, so that negative experience doesn't need to be repeated.
IT ONLY HAS TO BE HARD IF I WANT IT TO BE HARD.
I don't believe expression 'No pain, no gain'. I do believe that when there is pain, there is always gain. But it only has to be hard if I want or need it to be hard. And why would I want or need it to be hard? Because even though my logical mind understands and buys into concept that it can be easy and effortless (whatever it is), since birth I have been barraged with messages that say you have to work hard to get what you want, life isn't about being easy, et cetera. These are deep in my subconscious and that's where process always starts. Even word 'process', which I used for many years to mean facing life's lessons head on, took on meaning of 'painful work'. Today, when I catch myself struggling, I create affirmations that include words 'easily' and 'effortlessly'. This is a choice that I am consciously making in my life and language I use can either support or contradict it.
IT'S 11:30. IF I COULD BE ASLEEP, I WOULD BE ASLEEP.
Many years ago, when my niece was about 6, I was trying to get her to go to sleep. She sat up, put one hand on her hip and pointed to clock with other. In a voice full of disgust and exasperation, she said, 'Aunt Louise, it's 11.30. If I COULD be asleep, I WOULD be asleep.' It was hard to argue with that, because it was true. And it made me realize how often I do a number on myself because I'm not where I think I should be, or haven't reached a goal I've set for myself. The reality is that there are many forces at work --true desire, limiting beliefs, time constraints, to name just a few. If I could be there, I would be there. In 12 years or so since my niece said that to me, I've said it to myself a thousand times. It helps me to let go of feeling like I've failed, and helps me ask questions that need to answered in moment. These questions are usually things like 'what do I need to do/learn before I can go on to this?', 'is this something I truly desire, or just think I should desire?', etc.
