IF I SAY I WANT SOMETHING, AND I DON'T HAVE IT, THEN WHAT DO I WANT MORE?

This may be most valuable thing I've ever learned. Because I believe I create my own reality, then reality I have is what I've created. And, although I may not like what I've created, I need to take full responsibility for it. So, if I don't like it and I say I want something else, and I continue working towards that goal and it still doesn't materialize, then it's time to stop and ask this question: 'What do I want more?' Our unconscious goals, desires and beliefs are much more powerful than our conscious ones. And because they're 'unconscious', we are not even aware they are there. They just control what we manifest, leaving us feeling unsatisfied, frustrated and disappointed.

The most striking example of this I can give is fact that for much of my adult life, I was not in a serious relationship, although I said I wanted one. When I stopped and asked 'What do I want more' question, I got a very surprising answer: Space! I had a 'thing' about my own space. I'd always had a lot of space, all filled with my stuff. For some reason, I had equated being in a live-in relationship as meaning I would lose my space. It's been almost ten years since I asked this particular question and I am now married to a wonderful, sensitive person. It was scary in beginning, but once I was able to put two choices side by side (something you can't do when one is unconscious!), I was able to make a true choice. Sometimes, when we gravitate to same room as we often do, I have to smile as I recall my fears when he first moved in. Today, I can not relate to space issue at all and have difficulty understanding why it was more important to me than being in a loving, committed relationship. I am SO glad I asked that question!

Try working with this question for a while and let me know how it works for you.

Some additional variations might be:

-What kind of company must we be in order to attract associates and customers we want to attract? [This one probably depends on how you have defined your ideal associates/employees and ideal customers.]

-What kind of wife/husband must I be in order to be in a loving, nurturing relationship?

-Who must I be in order to live a life of integrity with my beliefs and values?

-What kind of [profession/job title] must I be in order to grow a reputation as an outstanding [profession/job title].

-What kind of parent must I be in order for my kids to enjoy spending time with me?

I'm sure you can think of others and apply this to your life.