If you love me...Written by Adeyemi Adetosoye
If you love me, you will keep my commandments… In love games we play, and in all aspects of human endeavors, maintaining positive relations with each other is a must, to live in harmony and peaceful coexistence with each other.The surest path to keeping good relations with our fellow humans is to know what their dos and don’ts are, and adhere strictly to same. An infringement of don’ts should be followed by a sincere apology. A blatant refusal to acknowledge our basic differences, thereby stepping on each other’s toes, is indicative of a lack of respect and by extrapolation, lack of love. True love is only found and kept, when both parties realize that they have been born and bred in totally different environments and make accommodations to show tolerance and an understanding/acceptance of each others different proclivities. Naturally, they must have lots in common in first place, to agree to go together. Even twins born of same mother and out of same womb, with lots in common, have a few grey areas they don’t much see eye to eye on; how much less two complete strangers who are in love?
| | To love or to be in loveWritten by Adeyemi Adetosoye
What is basic difference between loving someone and being in love with person? Before we can be sure that we have found true love, we need to be sure what these two terminologies mean.Is it possible to meet someone, connect with person and love person’s personality, way of life, etc? Truly be comfortable with such a person? Certainly! Most of us know significant others in our lives who fall into this category. At same time, it is possible to totally connect with a significant other and feel butterflies every time with this person. But latter scenario could very much be a crush or an obsession. How do we know that our feelings don’t fall into latter group? To understand my discourse, we need to understand various emotions at work in different scenarios. Firstly, crush or obsession: One feels a crush for another person, for no good reason at all. Often, object of crush may not even be aware of it. It can be described as an irrational desire and/or admiration for other person, which is totally uncalled for, or has no rational cause. Usually, this desire is almost purely physical: has to do with physical beauty, carriage, manners, smell, etc of other person. It is a likeness from a distance, such that one has for someone whom one doesn’t even speak to, or in close proximity, with someone whom one just says hello. At best, these feelings are juvenile, immature and usually manifest in awkward years of a teenager. The obsession, however, is a more mature form of crush. While crush may be teenage in origin, obsession stems from an advanced stage of crush, where emotions and thoughts have been nurtured continuously to an inferno. Usually, at obsessive stage, obsessive person has plucked up courage to develop some little relationship with object of his or her desire without latter being aware of it. What makes latter an obsession is that object of desire is either unaware of this desire, or doesn’t appreciate it.
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