If you're a parent, your son or daughter's wedding day is
day that you've simultaniously dreaded and looked foward to ever since day they were born. On one hand, you may be excited that your child is about to embark on a whole new life, on other hand you may feel a sense of "losing" them to their new husband or wife and their family. Without a doubt, next few months will be a busy, exciting, and emotional time for both you and soon-to-be married couple, that's why we've created this special section on parental roles and what both parents and children should expect when planning a wedding.MOTHER OF THE BRIDE DUTIES The mother of bride (MOB) is usually very involved with wedding day plans. In fact, we've heard more than one story about a MOB trying to take over her daughter's wedding. Moms, it's important to remember that this is really your daughter's special day and although she'll probably appreciate your suggestions and help, you should try to remember that this (hopefully) will be her only chance to plan wedding of her dreams. Brides, just remember that your mom only wants best for you and since she's probably paying for some of wedding, she does deserve some imput. That being said, we've made a list of some common duties MOB's take on.
-Helping couple select a ceremony and reception site, plus picking vendors.
-Helping bride pick out her wedding gown.
-Contribute to guest list planning. In many cases, MOB is one in charge of guest list and will need to consult with couple and groom's family about list.
-Make sure you tell Bride's relatives and family where couple is registered if MOH hasn't
-Talk to MOG about your dress. Your dresses should compliment each others.
-Attend bridal shower and rehearsal dinner. In many cases, MOB helps plan shower.
-You will sit in first pew in a Christian ceremony or be present at huppah in a Jewish ceremony. In a Jewish ceremony, both parents walk Bride down aisle.
-If there is a receiving line, you will probably be standing at front of it.
-Generally support bride as needed.
MOTHER OF THE GROOM DUTIES Years ago, most of pre-wedding "Mom duties" were left up to other of Bride all mother of Groom (MOG) needed to do was show up at ceremony looking pretty. Now in days though, MOGs are much more involved with wedding, particularly when groom is more involved in planning.
-When engagement is announced you should call Bride's parents ASAP. If you live close to each other, you should definitely try to get together sometime soon.
-Offer to help with ceremony and reception site planning as well as vendor finding.
-If Bride does not know your son's family well you should host a dinner or get together so she can get to know them better before wedding.
-Make up a list of people you would like to invite to wedding and consult with couple and possibly MOB about it (depending on who's organizing guest list).
