3. Forget embarrassment. Invite an organized friend to help you. Hire a professional. It's easier to organize when you can talk through clutter.

4. Set mood. Put on some fun music. Open windows. Choose a starting point and just do it.

5. "Nothing in world can take place of persistence," said Calvin Coolidge. Keep trying. Do a little bit daily or weekly and you'll soon find that you are more organized than you ever thought possible!

-If possible, attend bridal shower.

-Make sure to tell groom's relatives and friends where couple is registered if MOH has not.

-Talk to MOB about your dress. Your dresses should compliment each others.

-Traditionally, Groom's parents host rehearsal dinner.

-In a Christian ceremony you will be seated in first pew, in a Jewish ceremony you will escort your son down aisle and stand with him at huppah

-If there is a receiving line, you will be in it.

-Dance mother/son dance at reception.

-Be there for moral support.

FATHER OF THE BRIDE DUTIES For most dads, just thinking about their daughter's wedding day will make them get all choked up. This is a special day for your daughter and there's a lot you can do to make it even more special.

-The Bride's family is traditionally one to foot wedding bill. Many couples today are opting to at least pay a portion of expenses though.

-Offer to help with ceremony and reception site planning.

-Don't know much about flowers or wedding cakes? Offer to help pick out wedding music, food, or alcohol instead.

-Help out with out-of-town travel arrangements. The couple may need your help in giving guests directions, chauffering on wedding day, and booking hotel rooms.

-Attend rehearsal dinner. Many fathers give a speech to groom at rehearsal dinner.

-Travel to ceremony site with your daughter. In both Christian and Jewish ceremonies father of bride traditionally escorts her.

-If there is a receiving line, you will stand beside your daughter.

-You may give a toast at reception.

-Dance father/daughter dance at reception.

-Be there for moral support.

FATHER OF THE GROOM DUTIES Father of Groom-- it's a role you almost never hear about when people talk about weddings, but that doesn't mean that you can't play an important role in your son's wedding.

-Your son may need advice about proposing, be sure to give him support he needs.

-Once engagement has been announced, be sure to welcome Bride to your family and tell her how pleased you are that she will be part of it.

-Offer to help with ceremony and reception site planning.

-Ask couple if Father of Groom or Best Man needs any help with travel arrangements for out of town guests.

-Traditionally, Groom's family hosts rehearsal dinner.

-In a Christian ceremony, you will sit in first pew. In a Jewish ceremony you and Groom's mother will escort Groom down aisle and stand at huppah.

-If there is a receiving line, you will be in it.

-Make sure everyone is holding their liquor well and that bar is either stocked or closed down (if too many people are getting out of control drunk).

-Be there for moral support.