How to Be Appropriately Pushy

Written by Suzanne Falter-Barns


One ofrepparttar things that's often hard to know is how and when to be pushy appropriately. In these hardscrabble times, perfectly polite people don't stand much of a chance of getting what they want. However, not enough can be said for making yourself known in a decent and unobnoxious manner. The key is to use your intuition and your brain, both atrepparttar 129995 same time, and pray for a little luck.

When Lazaro Hernandez was a fashion student at Parson's School of Design in New York, he had a chance encounter in an airport with Anna Wintour, editor in chief of Vogue Magazine. In fact, she was getting on his airplane. Lazaro wasn't so sure he hadrepparttar 129996 nerve to approach, but one hour intorepparttar 129997 flight, he could stand it no longer.

Lazaro wrote a humble note on an airsick bag, which explained that he was a fashion student who would soon be looking for an internship. He noted that she probably got requests like this allrepparttar 129998 time, but wondered if perhaps someone had given her a chance atrepparttar 129999 beginning of her career. He also wrote that he knew she hadrepparttar 130000 power to help him. Then, trembling, he approached.

Lazaro stood before Ms. Wintour's seated figure, and said her name. No answer. He repeated her name several times. No answer. He even crossedrepparttar 130001 uncrossable boundary and touched her arm. Still no reply. Finally, he left his plea under her martini glass and crept back to his seat. Several months later, he received a call from a major designer who'd gotten Lazaro's letter from Ms. Wintour with instructions that it was not to be ignored. A subsequent interview proved that he had talent, and Lazaro was hired for his first internship.

Lazaro not only had great luck to get on an airplane withrepparttar 130002 most powerful woman inrepparttar 130003 fashion industry, he hadrepparttar 130004 savvy to make use ofrepparttar 130005 opportunity. He was ready when his break came with a portfolio of samples he'd worked hard on, making itrepparttar 130006 best it could be. Then he didrepparttar 130007 most important thing of all: he sent Ms. Wintour a thank you note, which prompted a fax fromrepparttar 130008 woman herself saying she was glad it all worked out.

This to me is a fine example of well-handled pushiness, in that Lazaro usedrepparttar 130009 opportunity as much as he could, but then was completely respectful and gracious. It is also evidence that a letter works, especially when delivered under unique circumstances. Designer Michael Kors was a store clerk, he sold Calvin Klein a ski jacket, and stuffed his design sketches intorepparttar 130010 sleeve asrepparttar 130011 jacket was en route to delivery. A documentary film director I know who needed a quote from a famous director to help her get grants pulled a similar coup. She found out where Woody Allen lived, then had a copy of her latest film delivered to his door with a handwritten note requesting a favorable comment. He obliged.

Savoring Moments Through Mindful Eating

Written by Deva Ratnakara


We all eat. But how mindful are we of every bite we take?

Your mother always told you to slow down and taste your food. That’s great advice, especially when we find ourselves grabbing a quick snack onrepparttar run or eating a meal while driving. How we eat says as much about us as what we choose to eat.

We can learn a great deal by paying attention to our eating habits. Our appetites change depending on our moods. If we’re depressed, we may eat more than usual or we may lose our appetite completely. When we are consumed by an emotion such as anger or sadness, we may not be aware of our eating habits at all.

Paying attention torepparttar 129992 way you eat is a great way to develop a more mindful approach to life in general. Since eating is something we do several times a day, it’s a perfect activity to pair with mindfulness. If you can choose to eat a meal alone—at work or at home—you have a perfect opportunity to create greater awareness atrepparttar 129993 same time.

Ready to give it a try?

Sit in a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for several minutes. Takingrepparttar 129994 time to present your food in an appealing way may be helpful for this exercise. Atrepparttar 129995 very least, unwrap your food and discard any packaging.

If possible, take a look atrepparttar 129996 food before you put it on a plate. Spend a moment focusing onrepparttar 129997 food itself—the colors, textures, and aromas. Considerrepparttar 129998 nutrients inrepparttar 129999 food, and focus on what it will do for your body.

Now, shift your attention to your empty plate. This isrepparttar 130000 vessel that will holdrepparttar 130001 food you choose to put into your body. Noticerepparttar 130002 shape,repparttar 130003 size andrepparttar 130004 color ofrepparttar 130005 plate. Take a moment to considerrepparttar 130006 space thatrepparttar 130007 food will fill on this plate.

Next, spend a moment concentrating on your body. Look at your belly. Feel your hunger. Pay attention to your craving, your anticipation ofrepparttar 130008 flavors, andrepparttar 130009 way they will taste on your tongue.

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