How to Be Appropriately Pushy

Written by Suzanne Falter-Barns


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Everyone has to start somewhere, evenrepparttar rich and famous. So if you can approach politely, preferably through some other means thanrepparttar 129995 front office, your efforts will probably not be seen as pushy but as what one does to get a break.

Part ofrepparttar 129996 reason this works isrepparttar 129997 honesty involved. You are telling them what you need up front. So this is very different than talking up a potential contact at a cocktail party withrepparttar 129998 sole agenda of having them look at your work, or hanging out a health club frequented by a certain star so you can add them to your list of influential friends. Those would be considered inappropriate ‘covert agenda’ moves that are really looked down upon byrepparttar 129999 rich and powerful.

Too often we assume thatrepparttar 130000 way to approach an industry or a leader is fromrepparttar 130001 bottom, worming your way up throughrepparttar 130002 ranks. A much more effective approach is just to go straight torepparttar 130003 top, where you very well may connect withrepparttar 130004 person who can make everything happen for you. This is why letters are such a good tool for approaching these people. They can read it in their own time, they're not too obtrusive, and if well-written and delivered in a subtle but attention-getting way, they can work wonders.

Important people, just likerepparttar 130005 rest of us, do not like to be used. Onrepparttar 130006 other hand, most people do like to be helpful, and a direct request can be amazingly effective.

©2004 Suzanne Falter-Barns. Reprint permission available. Apply to support@selfhelpsalon.com

Suzanne Falter-Barns is a former media insider whose work has appeared in popular magazines and more than 100 radio and television shows. The author of two successful books, ‘How Much Joy Can You Stand?’ and ‘Living Your Joy’ http://www.howmuchjoy.com, Suzanne trains people around the world to lead ‘How Much Joy Can You Stand?’ workshops. She also teaches them how to publish self help work through the Self Help Salon http://www.SelfHelpSalon.com.


Savoring Moments Through Mindful Eating

Written by Deva Ratnakara


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As you serverepparttar food and place it on your plate, be mindful ofrepparttar 129992 fact that this will be nourishing your body. Whatever you choose to place on your plate will ultimately serve as fuel for your activities and contribute to your energy and wellness.

Now, take a bite ofrepparttar 129993 food you have served yourself. Chew slowly, and pay attention torepparttar 129994 flavor and texture of this bite. Feelrepparttar 129995 food sliding down your throat, and consider how it will be digested by your system to create energy for your body. With each bite, noticerepparttar 129996 sensation of chewing and swallowing. Savorrepparttar 129997 taste. Swallow completely before taking another bite. As you takerepparttar 129998 last bite, pay attention torepparttar 129999 fullness in your belly, and noterepparttar 130000 satisfaction of completing a mindful meal.

Try eating mindfully during one meal a day for a week. For your regular, faster meals, notice when you find yourself eating without paying attention. Intentionally slow down so that you can enjoy that one bite before speeding up again. Doing this regularly will give you a much better understanding of what you are feeding your body—and how.

By becoming more mindful of our eating, we learn to pay attention to what feeds us, both literally and figuratively. Our food choices affect our wellness, and our approach to eating spills over intorepparttar 130001 way we handle our work, our relationships, and our lives in general. We must learn to recognize patterns in our behavior in order to create more awareness and harmony.

Mindlessly chewing whatever we fork into our mouths is akin to ignoring our actions in general. With a few moments of daily mindful eating, you will develop a much greater awareness of your choices and their power over all aspects of your life.



Deva Ratnakara has been teaching mindfulness and yoga for over 20 years. He lives in Sri Lanka where he is the head of a 500-member meditation group. To learn about the retreat he is offering in February 2005, please visit http://truemindfulness.org.


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