Self Help: Grief And The Holidays

Grief And The Holidays

Written by Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW

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Title: GRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYS Author: Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW Email: mailto:editor@overcoming-depression.com copyright: by Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW Web Address: http://www.Overcoming-Depression.com Word Count: 422 Category: Coping With Grief And The Holidays

GRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays bring grief to an all new height for those who are suffering from losses or struggle with depression, anxiety, chronic illness or other such disorders. This newsletter is for those who suffer and for those who love them.

If it's a merry Christmas for you, please take a moment to forward this, or print it off repparttar 130469 article and give to a friend or family member in need.

This will be an action-based holiday survival guide. Let's begin...

1. PLAN AHEAD - Don't allow repparttar 130470 holidays to simply happen. Plan ahead for repparttar 130471 best outcome.

2. PERFORM AT YOUR ABILITY - Accept your limitations and don't beat yourself up for not having repparttar 130472 Christmas you think you "ought" to have.

3. CUT OUT OR CREATE NEW RITUALS - If specific rituals are too painful, leave them out this year. Add a new holiday ritual.

4. ASK FOR HELP - Reach out to others for help shopping, cooking, wrapping etc.

5. VOCALIZE YOUR NEEDS - Tell folks you're struggling. Be specific about how they can help.

SEARCHING FOR YOUR CALLING – Quest or Curse?

Written by Nina Ham

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extraordinarily positive reader response to Po Bronson’s What Should I Do With My Life?, people are aching for a sympathetic outlook on their stories of career dissatisfaction. They tend to be their own harshest critics, often riddled with self-doubt and embarrassment about not getting this “career thing” right. Maintaining a constructive attitude is challenging. In spite of contrary statistics - such as, repparttar 130468

average American changes jobs eight times over repparttar 130469

course of his/her lifetime - we still tend to harbor repparttar 130470

expectation that we “should” decide by our late 20’s/early 30’s what we want to do and follow that thread for repparttar 130471

remainder of our working lives. As T. puts it, “My search for work I’m passionate about is regarded by my friends like a child’s drawing that’s put up on repparttar 130472

refrigerator…isn’t that cute!” If you’re in a career transition, what’s repparttar 130473

finger-pointing you’re doing at yourself? Does any of these sound familiar? • If it doesn’t look good on my resume, it doesn’t count • Maybe I should stop worrying about my calling and get a job • I’ve never been happy in a job…I need to look elsewhere for fulfillment • I have responsibilities. I can’t afford to look for work I love • What if I find my dream job and I’m still dissatisfied? • How will I explain to people…? If this were taking place in a courtroom instead of inside your head, your attorney would undoubtedly argue for extenuating circumstances. Ask yourself repparttar 130474

following: What did you learn in your formal education about making a good career choice?

When were you encouraged to match your abilities, values, and personality to career options, and shown how?

Would you ever consider marrying someone you hadn’t dated first?

Are you ever told that what you’re qualified to do something that earns a decent wage is not sufficient reason to keep doing it?

Do you know where you can get reinforcement for continuing to search for work you’re passionate about?

Did you have models for matching changes in work with changes in life stage?

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