Grief And The Holidays

Written by Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW


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6. BE HUMAN - You may assume things will be fine, and suddenly a song brings back memories... then pain. Feel repparttar pain. Tears are an honest expression of love and sadness. It's okay. It's also okay to shift plans in repparttar 130469 moment if needed.

7. MEMORIALIZE YOUR LOVED ONE - Make a donation to a charity in honor of your loved one who has died. If you're depressed, make a donation to mental health research through NAMI.

8. TALK ABOUT THE DECEASED - It's healthy and normal to tell stories aboutrepparttar 130470 deceased.

9. KEEP GOOD COMPANY - Choose to be around folks you feel safe and comfortable with duringrepparttar 130471 holiday season.

10. BE WARY OF QUICK FIXES - Folks who hurt are particularly vulnerable duringrepparttar 130472 holidays. Watch out for alcohol and drug abuse, over-spending etc.

11. PRACTICE GUIDE - Make a list of allrepparttar 130473 gifts your loved one brought torepparttar 130474 world. Keep these close by. Or make a list of all things you're grateful for in your life.

12. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF - Practicerepparttar 130475 love towards yourself that Christ taught us.

Please allow for your humanness, for fluctuations in your mood. If you are suffering, you're working with much less physical and emotional energy than most. Remember, grieving is nature's way of healing mind, body and spirit. Allow yourself access to grief, while your wounds heal. You'll be up and running again when it's time.

May God's healing arms wrap you up throughoutrepparttar 130476 holidays.



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SEARCHING FOR YOUR CALLING – Quest or Curse?

Written by Nina Ham


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Did you know that having an identity crisis or upheaval every 10 years is considered normal and healthy, and identity is largely shaped by love and work? Case rests. Support systems for people in career transition are lagging woefully behindrepparttar sea changes that are occurring inrepparttar 130468 way we do work. But you are ultimately responsible for your attitude. Every day,repparttar 130469 single most important decision you make is your outlook toward your search. Here are some suggestions for maintaining positive momentum: Don’t be afraid to make a temporary job move, to buy time and diminishrepparttar 130470 financial pressure. You can use it to check out some components of your eventual choice.

Considerrepparttar 130471 territory between your ears – worry, self-criticism, confusion – a bad neighborhood. Don’t hang out there alone. Talk with someone, a friend or a professional, who is more objective about you and your abilities than you are.

Don’t shortchange your intuition. Trying to figure this out may not berepparttar 130472 best way. Let some insights/hunches/visions come to you.

You’re learning career development skills here. This will probably not be your final change.

Check outrepparttar 130473 Po Bronson’s chatroom: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/life_goals. Your sense of being alone in your angst will dissolve. And finally, here’s a perspective I’d like to offer. Engaging courageously and wholeheartedly withrepparttar 130474 question “What should I do?” isrepparttar 130475 single most pro-active step you can take. After interviewing 900 people, Po concluded thatrepparttar 130476 biggest obstacle to answeringrepparttar 130477 question is guilt about taking it seriously. Work, when it’s right, is how we forge our place inrepparttar 130478 world;repparttar 130479 process of finding it clarifies and hones who we are and who we want to be. Askingrepparttar 130480 hard questions (What do I want? What impact do I want to have? Who do I want to become?) and giving time torepparttar 130481 inner and outer research, is surely one ofrepparttar 130482 most important life investments you can make.

Nina Ham, certified coach and licensed psychotherapist, is principal of Success from the Inside Out, providing individual coaching and teleseminars to build the skills, attitudes and habits for sustainable success in your career or business. Mail to: Nina@womenssuccesscoach.com, subscribe in subject line, for free monthly e-zine, or visit http://www.SuccessfromtheInsideOut.com.


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