Get a Coach and Make Your Resolutions Happen This YearWritten by Susan Dunn, Professional Coach
How's your list of New Year's resolutions coming? Studies show that most people have already failed by 15th of January. Has this happened to you? If so, you may have left out prime ingredient for your success - a coach! Coaching is a new field. Until you've talked to someone who's had a coach, or seen results happen in someone who's had a coach, or been coached yourself, it's hard to figure out just what "coaching" is. A NEED THAT WASN'T BEING MET Coaching developed to meet a need that wasn't being met. We've all wished at one time or another we had a coach, like Tiger Woods, for instance. Someone who could help us be all we could be. Where could you go if you didn't need "fixing" but could use some suggestions? Therapy exists because it, too, is needed, but coaching isn't therapy. Some people enjoy benefits of both therapy and coaching, which demonstrates two are not same thing. Coaching supplies something therapy can't, and vice versa. In coaching, we focus on strengths and move forward. It's rapid and effective. A FRIEND So it's like having a friend? No, not in least. Here's why: · Coaching is work. Done properly it takes energy and focus and a completely different mindset. · Friends have agendas of their own. They aren't objective. · Friends aren't experienced. · Friends are usually unidimensional in their relationship to you. Most of us have a strong network of friends and we know whom to go to for what we want. We know what "answer" they're going to give us. There are no surprises. · A coach puts your interests before theirs and keeps focus totally on you. · Coaches are trained to clear their minds for a coaching session and remove all their own issues. A coach is someone you can go to who is trained to give you what is needed, not necessarily what you want, and if they're a good coach. They have a full repertoire of tools to use to orient to situation. They can change their tact depending upon what they sense you need at time. QUESTIONS NOT ANSWERS A turning point in my life was when my own coach listened to me heading in a wrong direction and said, "Why would you want to do something you don't like with kind of people you don't like?" Coaches are trained to listen, and to ask hard questions that tap into your own wisdom. There are times in our lives when we're asking wrong question, or seeking to solve wrong problem, and lack objectivity to see beyond it. We "can't see forest for trees." A coach lays down bread crumb trail! In my case, I was trying to figure out how to be happy doing something I hated. The obvious question to ask me was why was I continuing to beat my head against a brick wall. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting what you've been getting … even if, especially if, you do it harder and better, which we tend to do.
| | Warning! Look Up; Big Problem Straight AheadWritten by Richard Vegas
So, you've got a problem? Well guess what? That's good. Now don't you throw anything at me. I'm sure you've heard of Murphy's Law. You know, "If anything can go wrong, it will". Well, I want to give you some Vegas-ology! "Man who stay under big tree, may find bird of paradise taking a big P**." :>)I know, I hear you saying, don't wax melancholy on me. Well, you may say, I want to be bird of paradise; I'm tired of being one that gets big P. Ah…but into every life a little sunshine must fall. I heard someone said yeah, very little. Listen, you can be bird of paradise; you just have to learn to grow wings. I'm flying this Coop! Well then, how do I do that wise guy? I'm glad you asked. Do this. Repeat after me 400 times, "If a bullfrog had wings he wouldn't bump his little rear end when he landed." And, If man look up when under big tree, read, he will step out of way of big P. The most important thing you can do when in heat of battle, is not turn heat up any more. Duh...But, you would be surprised how many times you do. That reminds me of something I've always thought was so funny. Consider this for yourself. Remember movie 10 Commandments? There was a scene where Moses was telling Pharaoh, Let my people go. Pharaoh had suffered through Nile river being turned into blood, tree> then all fish died, tree> then flies and gnats covered land and yet tree>.Fine as Frogs Hair! Here is what I always laughed myself silly over: it was part about frogs. The Nile was teeming with frogs, there were frogs in Palace, there were frogs in kitchen, there was frogs in oven, there was frogs in kneading troughs, and, there was frogs in Pharaoh's bed. Remember, through all of this Pharaoh stayed under tree. Now get this: Even magicians did same things and brought up MORE frogs with their secret arts; as if they needed some more frogs. You know like they didn't really have enough. Ok, then Pharaoh tells Moses, I will let your people go. And, Moses says, ok, when? And here is answer that I consider epitome of standing under bird of paradise when he's already giving you a nice shower. Pharaoh says, tomorrow. Come back tomorrow. He's saying like, Hey Moses, you know; just give me one more night with these frogs. Every time I think about that story I wonder; why did Pharaoh shoot himself in foot? Every time I've done something that ended up with a stench on it, I realize, I just had to have one more night with my frogs. So, I stood under bird of paradise too long and he showered me with all little presents I was willing to take
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