But me! I just say 'Great'. You know why?

No, I am not one of lucky few. I have learned a very life defining skill. And that is to maintain perspective. Of course you have heard about 'perspective'? Let us work on this together now, please.

Perspective is one of those influencers that are instrumental in shaping your reality. It is not only influencer, but it does play a pretty crucial role.

You (and you alone) determine your perspective. Never mind what is happening out there. You are ultimately responsible for your outlook, because you can control your self-confidence, your self-talk, as well as your expectancies.

These three are components of perspective. Success is much more possible when these three components are positive.

Yes, it might be raining out there and sheriff might be knocking at your door. You might be faced with a bankruptcy and your most trusted partner might have just dumped you. But... what is important when these things happen is climate/environment you are creating and maintaining in your head. Your glorious status might be history, but how about rewriting your future? And here's how...

Self-confidence

It is important for you to remember that your perceptions of reality changes depending on how you feel about yourself at any given moment. Got that? If you are full of confidence, you diminish power of outside factors, and your internal reality is charged up with resourcefulness. 'What if my self-confidence is so low because of failures I have experienced'? I hear you ask.

Title: Expressing Your Love Through Service Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 767 Category: Self Improvement, Spiritual Growth

Expressing Your Love Through Service By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A client of mine told me that she had been making food for a friend of hers who was very ill. “I find that my heart opens and I feel so happy when I am doing something for someone else. I need to do this more, but I don’t know what to do.”

Doing service is a powerful way to open heart and fulfill soul. Those people who do service know how much joy they receive from giving to others. The more inner work we do to fill ourselves with love, more our heart overflows to point where we may feel compelled to help others.

There are many forms of service and we each need to find way that works best for us. There is no right way. We can serve by helping one person, such as being a Big Brother or Big Sister to a disadvantaged child, or we can be of service by helping whole groups, such as raising funds for environmental projects. We can offer our time building houses for poor, or we can offer money. We can choose to be of service to people, animals or Mother Earth. Your service may be in being a loving parent to your children, helping a friend in need or being a loving mate who supports other’s highest good in many little ways. Doing service is a matter of discovering your passion and then offering your time and love. You might have a special interest in protecting environment, stopping child abuse, helping homeless or caring for dying. You might offer service through your creativity, creating beautiful drawings, ceramics or quilts to donate to charitable causes or give as gifts. Tuning in to your feelings of what brings you joy will lead you toward knowing how you want to be of service to others.