I will now conclude with five through ten of character flaws that Dr. Tartaglia has recorded in his book, Flawless! The Ten Most Common Character Flaws and What You Can Do About Them.

“A Character with Flaws” (conclusion)

(5) “Intolerance” stinks. An attitude of superiority and disdain pervades air when this flaw is present. You can smell it. This attitude of rejection and intolerance is basis of bias and prejudice according to Dr. Tartaglia. Sometimes it is blatant, like racial prejudice or nationalism. Sometimes it is very subtle and presents itself as pity for poor unfortunates who aren’t as liberated, or enlightened, as we are. Nevertheless, it is still intolerance. This flaw of character could be eliminated if we’d stress personal responsibility, and value and sacredness of human life in our homes and schools. Seems we go to great lengths to teach kids skills that they will need to excel in a career, but we don’t take time to teach them respect for one another. No matter what your color, creed, or culture is your life is worthy of my respect.

(6) The “poor me” (martyr syndrome) character is found in people who need to be victimized. Don’t get me wrong. There are a number of victims out there who have truly suffered and don’t want to be victimized any more; however, I know some people, as you probably do also, who use their victimization in a way that disrupts relationships and creates chaos. These people embellish their victimization and set themselves up as victims by pity parties to make others feel sorry for them. Actually their status as perpetual victim becomes their strength. The louder they cry, more attention they get. You know type. These self-inflicted martyrs suffer pain so that someone will look at them and think they’re a saint for enduring such pain and affliction.

(7) “Self-regard run riot” is listed as number seven. It was Charles H. Parkhurst who said, “The man who lives by himself and for himself is likely to be corrupted by company he keeps.” The “self-regard run riot” flaw is easily identified. It’s hard to hide it when someone is self-absorbed. They give themselves away easily when every sentence out of their mouth begins with, “I.” You don’t have to regard them. They regard themselves, constantly.

The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you” is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman; hold out for someone that you really connect with and live life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!

2: Apply Laws of Attraction

This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around globe on differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about Laws of Attraction.

Now, this is not to say that Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.

What are Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows man’s physical attributes.

3: Don't Be Too Nice

Of course, everyone knows that being “nice” is considered socially acceptable in world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be – that’s how they choose their friends. Being “NICE” just isn’t what ignites flames of passion. What does ignite flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one’s self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn’t mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.

4: Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!

Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn’t appear interested in you romantically that you are person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can’t change way a person “feels.” You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with knowledge that a woman doesn’t “feel” attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue woman without regard for her lack of “feelings.” Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to next lady in line, who might just “feel” attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!

5: Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time

It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman’s mind that man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain woman’s approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman’s approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!

6: Buying Her Affections will not Score You Any Real Points