Your wedding attire there are two main considerations when planning your outfit for a wedding abroad. You need to find something that you will be comfortable wearing, especially if you're getting married in sunshine, and you also need to choose something that you can transport relatively easily.

If temperature on your wedding day is likely to be very cool, a 'floaty' beach dress probably isn't perfect choice. Look for something that will suit environment - more of a traditional ball gown-style wedding gown, for example. Equally, consider accessories such as shoes. Pretty beach sandals aren’t thing for walking around castle grounds. Instead consider a high heel shoe.

What you wear for your wedding is entirely up to you and there are no real dress rules if you are marrying in grounds of your hotel. However, if you have arranged for a religious service in a chapel or church you will most likely be expected to respect local custom and cover your head and shoulders. Also in some Eastern countries, such as Thailand there is a specific dress code. Your wedding coordinator or relevant embassy will advise you.

“Mark,” I asked, “Were you ever in love with Linda?”

“Yes, at beginning of our relationship.”

“Then what happened?”

“Linda seemed to get really insecure once I started my new business and had long work days. Even though I think I gave her a lot of attention on weekends, she started getting angry pretty much every day. Then after our son was born, she seemed even more unhappy and irritable. She gets mean when she’s angry and I just don’t find that appealing. I don’t feel close to her anymore.”

“Have you said anything to her about this?” I asked.

“No,” he replied. “She already seems so unhappy. I don’t want to hurt her feelings.”

“So how do you handle it?”

“I guess I just sort of shut down and pretend that everything is okay. But I’m spending more and more time at work because I don’t like being at home and recently I met another woman that I’m attracted to. I realize I’ve got to do something about this.”

“Do you really think that leaving her will cause less hurt than telling her your truth?”

“Well, if I just leave then I don’t have to deal with her hurt.”

“Mark, that’s a lack of courage and integrity. And you have two children to think about. You once loved Linda and it’s possible that you could again, but only if you are willing to be honest. You need to give Linda a chance to deal with this. She has no idea what’s going on. She might decide to deal with her anger, or she might not, but at least give her a chance to make that decision. And relationship problems are never one-sided. Perhaps she has things to say to you too.”