Your mother always told you that you only get one chance to make a first impression and first impressions can make or break you. Women look at every last detail, from your tasseled shoes to amount of goop you have in your hair. Be honest guys, women aren?t only ones who try on ten different outfits before deciding what to wear for a night out on town. And it is perfectly normal. But how do you know which outfit is right one to impress girl on your first date?

Let me take you through it step by step. Clothes aren?t only thing a woman looks at when you?re dressing to impress; it?s whole package. Fortunately or not, outside is what she sees first. What you see is sometimes what you get. So what do you wear?

Out with Old?

Rule number one is: don?t under dress. Guys have a tendency to pull on a pair of pants and first shirt they find and head out door. You have to look put-together, like some sort of effort was made for her. So take those ratty, old tennis shoes and toss ?em! Take your t-shirts with big, loud prints and forget about them! And yes, women think carpenters are sexy but that doesn?t give you green light to wear your paint-stained jeans. The solution is simple. Ask a friend (male or female) over day of your big date. Not only will they help calm your nerves but they?ll also give you their honest opinion on your chosen outfit. Second, an iron can also be a man?s best friend. You?d be surprised what a little pressing can do to change your look. Finally, don?t rush! There?s nothing wrong with taking an extra half hour to prepare. If you take time to get ready, your date will take time to notice.

?in with New

How can you bolster your resilience to change and learn to manage it better? How can you keep “stress” from becoming “strain”? Here are some tips. 1. Label it immediately a "transition."

You are not lost in space (no longer a mother), nor at end of line (retirement), nor is it end of world (getting laid off). You are in space between one thing and another -- a transition. You are now going to create future, and recreate yourself. There is no cause for alarm.

2. Develop your emotional intelligence (EQ) and start now.

This is proactive way to prepare for all changes in your life. With EQ, you won’t be reactively dealing with each change as it comes along. You will have accepted change as part of your life, and built life skills you need to keep "stress" from becoming "strain."

3. Accept change as a "constant" and build resilience.

Resilience (an EQ competency) means being able to survive loss, rejection, failure and adversity and remain hopeful. The single worst outcome of any change or crisis would be for you to become bitter and cynical.

4. Handle emotions through body.

If your body is tense, you will be tense. Get out of this harmful closed feedback loop. As Candace Pert, Ph.D. says, our emotions exist in every cell of our body. Exercise, yes, of course, but also get massages. The benefit to your well-being is widely reported in scientific literature.

5. Get with people who can sing your song when you’ve forgotten it.

We all have hard times; this is just your time. Rely on people around you who can remind you of what’s constant in your life – real you, and them, your friends!

6. Work with a certified emotional intelligence coach.