Family: Do You Really Want a Relationship?

Do You Really Want a Relationship?

Written by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC

With a divorce rate in this country that approaches 50%, and a fairly sizable percentage of marriages that aren’t particularly blissful, it’s difficult to avoid searching for repparttar

answer to

battle of

sexes.

Would you like to stop searching?

We’ve moved through repparttar 111286 old paradigm of getting your needs met in relationships and it has proven itself to be a miserable failure. Why? Attempting to get your needs met in your relationship causes some troublesome things to happen. First, it causes you to focus mainly on your needs and not on repparttar 111287 desires of your partner. Secondly, it sets you up for disaster because it has you believing that you deserve something that may well not be delivered.

All across this great country of ours, battles are raging between men and women: she needs to talk and connect, and he needs his space and independence. Who wins here? The answer, of course, is that both lose because of a flawed view of what a successful relationship is all about. What also happens is that both people start to blame repparttar 111288 other for not meeting their needs.

For men who are really serious about success in their relationships, it’s important to understand how blaming your partner is an enormous problem itself. It creates a bigger problem and has you convinced that you are not part of repparttar 111289 problem. Nothing could be further from repparttar 111290 truth. Blaming has never worked and never will. It may have you feeling justified in your position, but it will always hurt your relationship.

It’s particularly important to develop repparttar 111291 realization that your feelings can deceive you in your relationship with your partner. This can be difficult for people raised during repparttar 111292 honor your feelings era of relationships. Your feelings tell you things like, I can’t believe she could do something like that to me, or, How could she treat me so badly? These feelings are repparttar 111293 result of your own low self-esteem and your own personal history of victimization.

Are you making time for your marriage?

Written by Stephanie Foster

It's easy to lose track of repparttar

important things when you are raising a family. It's hard enough to pay enough attention to your marriage when you have children; if you add working from home to repparttar 111283

mix, it can become nearly impossible. Yet a strong marriage is one of repparttar 111284

greatest gifts you can give your children.

There are some simple ways to make sure your spouse knows how much he or she means to you, however. These tips won't solve all your problems, but they will help you to remember how much your spouse means to you.

1. Say "I love you" often. My husband and I say these three little words every day. We start repparttar 111285 day with them, and repparttar 111286 day ends with them. It means so much to hear repparttar 111287 words, even when you know your spouse loves you. 2. Be honest with each other about your needs. If your spouse is not doing something you wish he or she would do, say so, whether it's helping with housework or cuddling. Don't be confrontational, of course. 3. Show appreciation for repparttar 111288 things your spouse does. Not only is saying "thank you" a good example to set for your kids, it's one of those small things that makes a huge difference in how people feel about what they've done.

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