Do You Really Want a Relationship?Written by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
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While it’s true that your partner may treat you in a way you don’t like sometimes, it’s not true that you need to react to it with strong negative feelings. These strong negative feelings are a reflection of your own esteem issues. They also have a way of keeping your partner engaged in struggle with you so that you can continue to blame each other. When you are both engaged in struggle, you’ll believe that she needs to be fixed. She’ll think same of you. Nobody wins and everybody loses. This isn’t very smart or effective. What would happen for men in their important relationships if they gave up defending themselves and believing their needs needed to be met? What would happen if they worked at being kind and caring with their partners? I’ll tell you what would happen. They’d have great relationships! After all, only thing that you can do to improve a relationship is to improve you. So stop looking over at your partner and seeing all of her flaws. Stop blaming her. She has issues just like we all do. But if you see her as a collection of flaws you’ll have no chance at a successful relationship. And it’s successful relationships in life that make us truly happy.
Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, is a certified personal coach, speaker, and workshop leader who helps men to create balance in their lives and to immediately improve their family relationships, guaranteed! He is the author of Fix Your Wife in 30 Days or Less (http://www.markbrandenburg.com/e_book.htm#fix and can be reached at mark@markbrandenburg.com or at http://www.markbrandenburg.com.
| | Are you making time for your marriage?Written by Stephanie Foster
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4. Take time to listen. Make sure you know what is going on in your spouse's life. Emotional support is utterly vital in a good marriage. 5. Get time away from kids together. It doesn't matter if it's for an hour or a few days, just do it. You need to remind yourselves what you mean to each other, and to just relax in each other's company. No need for fancy plans, dinner and a movie or even just a walk will do. Try for at least once a month, better yet, once a week. 6. If you work from home, don't let your job or business run your entire life. Keep a schedule, just as you would at a traditional job. It's easy to let these things get out of hand, but remember why you're working from home in first place and keep your priorities straight.A good marriage is one of best things in life. Don't take it for granted. You'll be giving yourself and your family a gift that lasts a lifetime.
Stephanie Foster is the owner of Home with the Kids, a resource that knows that there's more to staying home with your family than just business. From money saving tips to parenting and marriage tips, to work at home jobs and businesses, you can get information and support here. You can visit the site at http://www.homewiththekids.com.
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