Title: Devoted to Loving Author: Margaret Paul E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 991 Category: Emotional Healing

DEVOTED TO LOVING by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I have counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for past 35 years and authored eight published books. All this experience has resulted in development of a profound healing process, called Inner Bonding, which anyone can learn and use throughout day (free course available - see resource box at end of article).

If you were to become aware of your thoughts throughout a day, you might discover that much of time you are either judging yourself and others, or you are thinking about how you can get what you want and avoid that which you fear. The wounded, fearful part of us, whose purpose is to create a sense of safety, spends much time and energy trying to figure out how to have control over being safe. To this frightened wounded part of us, being safe means attempting to have control over our own feelings, over others and over outcome of things.

If you think about how often you have truly felt safe in your life, you will see that most of your beliefs about how to create safety are false. All addictive ways we try to control to create safety - our blaming anger, withdrawal, compliance, resistance, as well as substance and process addictions such as food, drugs, alcohol, sex, TV, gambling - not only alienate us from others, but also disconnect us from our spiritual guidance. Our only true sense of safety lies in knowing that we are not alone, that Spirit is always with us and always guiding us in our highest good.

How can we create a true sense of inner safety? One way is to practice 6-step Inner Bonding healing process. The purpose of Inner Bonding process is to create a loving Adult self – an aspect of us that is connected with a personal source of spiritual guidance. This powerful Adult self can heal fears and false beliefs of wounded part of us, our wounded inner child, and allow our creative and loving essence – our core Self – to emerge.

In 1941 Major General Hugh ‘Pat’ Casey designed Pentagon in only three days. Construction began thirty days later and sixteen months after that on January 15, 1943 this now world famous office building was completed. The Pentagon is headquarters for United States Department of Defense and nerve center for command and control dedicated to protecting US national interests. You have your own Pentagon of sorts within yourself. This Pentagon, or Penta’tude as I have come to call it, has direct impact on your protection, growth and success and is made up of these five ‘tudes: Multitude, Magnitude, Latitude, Attitude and Gratitude.

Let’s take a look at each of these supporting walls to your own personal Penta’tude.

Multitude As we go through our daily lives a multitude of opportunities present themselves. However, a multitude of challenges also come along for ride. If you spend you time fretting about challenges you will end up blotting out those opportunities. To give you an example of what I’m talking about – take a dime and look at it at arms length. Small, thin not to ominous. But if you put all your focus on it and bring it in close to your eye then it will blot out world as you see it. Worse yet closer it gets more you loose focus and more edges blur. Now you don’t really know where challenge ends and opportunities begin. Focusing on opportunities instead of challenges increases your chances at success, not to mention increasing level of success you can and will attain.

Magnitude This works closely with Multitude. As you go through your opportunities and challenges in life and business, you need to magnify important things. Focus on magnitude and impact of your core values, desires and major definite purpose. Reduce magnitude of challenges that seem insurmountable. “Don’t make mountains out of molehills” apply strategic thinking and brainstorming techniques to breakdown those seemingly impassable obstacles. (I have an article on using brainstorming to solve problems. If you are interested send me an email at mailto:tracy@tracybrinkmann.bizhosting.com?subject=brainstorming_article). On other side of this coin, do not let one major win in your success make you think your set for life. Every good businessperson knows that if your not growing your business then it is dieing. Because if your sitting still while everyone else is moving forward then respectively your are falling behind. Enjoy that major success; bask in glow and pride it gives you. Then sit down and plan for next big win.