For example, if you are going to a party where you do not know anyone, and you are thinking, "What if no one talks with me? What if no one likes me? What if I end up alone? How can I get people to like me?", you will likely feel anxious. But if, instead, you think, "What can I give? I can give my smile, my acceptance, my caring, my understanding," you will likely feel empowered.

We each have a choice each moment to think about taking and avoiding, or about giving to ourselves and others. Which choice we make determines how we feel. The moment we choose to give, Spirit comes rushing into our heart and we then know God. Until loving is more important than whether or not we are rejected or controlled by others, we will not be truly devoted to loving.

The Inner Bonding process is based on concept that there are only two intentions possible in any given moment: intent to learn or intent to protect. The intent to learn means that we want to learn about what is loving to ourselves and how to take full responsibility for our own feelings of pain and joy. The intent to protect means that we want to avoid responsibility for our own feelings through some kind of controlling behavior – controlling others or ourselves through various addictive behaviors mentioned above.

In Step One of Inner Bonding, we choose willingness to feel our pain and take responsibility for it. In Step Two, we move into an intent to learn about how we may be causing our difficult feelings and what false beliefs we are operating from. In Step Three, we dialogue out loud or in writing, as a loving Adult, with our inner child to learn about our fears and false beliefs and about how we are treating ourselves that may be harmful to us. In Step Four, we open to learning with our personal spiritual guidance, asking for truth about false beliefs and loving action toward our inner child. With practice, you can learn to access guidance that is always available for all of us. In Step Five we take loving action we are being guided to take, and in Step Six we evaluate how we are feeling as a result of loving action.

Practicing these six steps will eventually transform your life through development a powerful loving Adult self.

Attitude This is starting point of your success journey. Whether you call it your disposition, manner, temperament, spirit, approach, position, posture, outlook or opinion your attitude has a major bearing on your level of success.

Attitude is defined as: 1.Personal view of something: an opinion or general feeling about something • a positive attitude to change 2.Bodily posture: a physical posture, either conscious or unconscious, especially while interacting with others

Your attitude, feelings, or moods will infect or effect actions, moods, and feelings of those around you. If you face world with a cheerful expectant attitude, world (and those in it) will know you expect more from it and will perform accordingly. If you face world with a negative, down trodden attitude it will know you expect poor action from it and will give you those actions. Remember that world will reflect your attitude back to you. Your attitude to world will determine its attitude towards you (cause and affect). So one of main rules to a successful life is to know that world is a mirror, often a merciless mirror, of our selves and habitual attitude we carry within us. (I have full articles on attitude send email to mailto:successarticle_2@sendfree.com, on staying positive send email to mailto:successarticle_4@sendfree.com, and 4 ways to stay motivated mailto:successarticle_7@sendfree.com)

Gratitude I saved best for last. As always grandest rules are simplest, like “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.” The more you express gratitude for what you have, more you have to express gratitude for. You will never find a happy person who isn’t a grateful person, so gratitude is a marvelous place to start. Expressing gratitude for what you have versus whining about that which you are lacking keeps you focused on positive. Remaining on this positive side positively impacts four other walls of your success Penta’tude. As we all teach our children, magic word is “Thank you!” You are a wondrous breathing, thinking, creating self-actualizing creature, take time to sit and ponder all wonders that are already in your life, and how you can build upon them.

Use these five key walls of your Penta’tude to build and secure your growth and success in both you personal and professional life. Sit down now and review your current walls. If you find any holes or weakened sections of your Penta’tude, give them all your focus. Making this Penta’tude a part of who you are will do wonders for moving you towards your desires, dreams and major definite purpose

Think successfully! Tracy

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